How am I meant to do this

[HadItIReallyhave]

How do I leave an emotionally abusive marriage.

Unappreciated general dogsbody and I am not sure I can take any more.

He is an absolute Jekyll and Hyde.

I am not sure I can do this but this feeling is absolutely horrendous. I have mental health issues and everything ( his language/ his behaviour) is because of my mental health.

All I have done is try to be the best wife and Mum and that is not good enough.

I'm not good enough. I never will be.

Of course you are good enough.
It sounds like he is abusive.

He is emotionally abusive.

It's awful. One minute he's the loveliest person in the whole world to being the most horrid.

He shouts at me. He calls me names and he swears at me. In front of the children.

It's only ever verbal and it's not all the time. But one thing is that it is always always my fault.

It makes me so sad as I am incredibly giving and caring and I try my best to be the best wife and mum I can be.

He is beyond unappreciative. I get treated as a dogs body and am basically here just to be a skivvy.

He's the main earner and I am due to start work again in September after being off with my mental health for a few years.

He works incredibly long hours and seems
to hate being with me so much as this seems to be the same set up every weekend when he is here.

What am I to do.

@HadItIReallyhave firstly I'm sorry you're feeling so rubbish. I think I have a very good understanding of how you're feeling as I could have written your post!
I have told my dh I can't do it anymore. He seems very surprised and confused, but has had years of warning about the way he choses to speak/behave.

There is another thread on here where a few of us are in the same boat. I'm not sure how to link it but it's titled "I need to leave". You will get lots of support on here. It's really helped me. Good luck on your journey x