No progression? Do I stick it out and see?

[Beeonwall]

I've finally met someone who is very attractive, we get on so well and there is lots of chemistry. He is very sweet and when we are together I enjoy it so much. I've been seeing him since Feb.
All good however....
it doesn't seem to be progressing to much more than casual. I'm pretty disappointed about this but I'm not sure if he's just a slow burner as we haven't had any conversations about our relationship status yet.

What do I do? Do I see where it goes? On the plus he's great company, good sex and I enjoy our time together and I cannot face going back online. Or do I accept at this point it isn't progressing?
Should I chat to him about it to see?

I don't want to stop what we have.

Do you want progress? Because you seem to want that but then say you don't want to stop what you have even though what you have isn't what you want.

Oh and you need to talk to him. Have the conversation. You might not like what he has to say but but it's s where he is whether you know it yet or not.

Or he might surprise you.

Don't do anything until you've actually spoken to him. He is the only one who can answer your question.

What do you mean by casual? What are you looking for?

I think it is still early days so wouldn't panic but I assume you know he isn't dating others?

However I would also encourage you to trust your instincts...if it feels as if he treats the relationship casually then listen to that.
I have dc so a slow burn relationship would really suit me but guess it depends what life stage you are at.

Thanks for your responses.
So I'm not sure if we are exclusive. I assume we are as I'm not sure where either of us would find the time to see other ppl.

So what do I say to him?

By casual I feel it's not a confirmed relationship and we have a lot of intimacy but not much out side weekends and the house

"I want to talk about what we are and what we're doing. I've assumed we're exclusive but realised that we haven't even talked about that..." and then leave him to say something next.

@PurpleSlate thank you!

@Beeonwall

By casual I feel it's not a confirmed relationship and we have a lot of intimacy but not much out side weekends and the house

So you meet up at home and have sex at weekends? Do you go on dates? Have you met his friends, family etc? Have you had any conversations at all about feelings etc? From the above quote it sounds like a FWB arrangement, not a relationship.

When you say 'intimacy', do you mean intimacy or are you using it as a euphemism for sex?

Yep I feel it's become a FWB without even discussing it.
No dates, he won't meet my friends (I've tried) and I haven't met his friends yet.
It's a bit crap but I really like him, I feel like I can't let go If he says it's just Fwb

Ah sorry OP.
I think you will just have to be brave and have a conversation with him. He might not react in the way that you want, but you need to know. You can't go on like this if you want more. The sooner you know where you stand with him the better.
Really hope it goes your way!

Oh dear, it does sound more like an fwb thing. That's a shame but better to know now.

I know what you mean about not wanting to walk away if it is but you will only get hrt in the long run

I’m sorry but if he won’t meet your friends and he has no interest in introducing you to his it is v v casual or as you say a fwb. No dates .. just house for sex? If you are happy with that fine but I would think based on what you have described there is v little chance of it turning into a relationship

I agree you must have the conversation and the approach suggested above it very good. Unfortunately if he has resisted attempts to introduce him to your friends, it’s likely he won’t want more than he’s already getting from the situation. But if that’s the case you will feel even worse dragging it out, you need to know either way.

@PurpleSlate

"I want to talk about what we are and what we're doing. I've assumed we're exclusive but realised that we haven't even talked about that..." and then leave him to say something next.

Saying something like this takes the pressure off it being perceived as a chat about where the relationship is going and The Future and is more about what it is now.

It'll make it easier for him to say if it's casual - so he's less likely to lie - and doesn't sound like you're running off towards commitment territory - so won't 'scare him off'.