Anyone gone on to have a serious relationship with their friend with benefits

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So been having fun with a guy for a couple of months and now he says he wants more. I do like him and we get along outside of the bedroom but I know he has been seeing other women too and I just wondered anyone had a fwb situation progress on to something more serious.. positive and negative experiences all appreciated!

Not had it happen to me, but I think the whole reason it was a sort of FWB situation is because there were reasons we wouldn’t have worked as a couple. Surely otherwise you just date.

My friend got serious with hers. They've now been together for nearly 10 years. Engaged, own home and 2 children.

How is it really different from going to early non-exclusive dating to getting more serious?
It’s only been a few months so you have only seen each other several times, I presume?
Just have a chat and see what you both would like going forward and decide.

Do YOU want to progress it? Presumably there was a reason you weren’t looking for a relationship when you met him. Has something changed?

I have been living with mine for almost 3 years.

We were both fresh out of marriages. We fancied eachother slept together a few times, then feelings got involved. So I backed off. We stayed friends for a while, then it started up again. But we still didn't want to be an official couple.

But honestly, we were. When I got my house post divorce, he helped me move in a decorate. Got it set up for the kids. We spoke on text all the time. Any nights my kids werent with me, we stayed together. Any days off we had together with no kids, we spent together. We even did our weekly shop together. Neither of us saw anyone else.

I, actually, posted here because I was going to end it. I knew I loved him but was scared. I explained the above and some lovely mn'ers told me, nicely to get a grip and it was obvious he wanted to be with me. I am grateful that they did.

But it took a couple of years beginning to end. And we were at the same stages together. At the beginning he was what I needed. Good sex, an ego boost and a friend that understood what I was going through. And when I needed/wanted more so did he.

Married 17 years in October.

Depends what you mean by FWB, that can cover a whole wide variety of circumstances. Some of these sound like they were just casual and then became serious, which is surely a common way for a serious relationship to start? That is very different from a set up where you are both clear that you are looking ONLY For FWB because of specific circumstances in your lives? Those are much less likely to develop into anything more.