Sex... married mum's how much you having?

[JC2021]

Since lockdown it's definitely gone even more downhill for us and there is tension because of it..

Since having our son things have been difficult and we've had a difficult ride with it from the start.. husband isn't satisfied or happy with the amount of sex were having..

What would you say is your new normal since having a kid or kids??

We're both shattered most evenings and rarely get time for just us..

About once a week at the moment. We’ve been together 15 years and this is the most frequently we’ve had sex since 2009!

More than BEFORE we had a child, which was only about once a month.

Not since I had my third 11 months ago 😳 I've gone right off him

We've been together for 18year and it's 2 or 3 times a week at the minute. It's never really been less tbh.

@Walkingalone21

I’m shocked reading this. I suppose I have never asked anyone this question to know the answer. 😂 We have been together 17 years with 2DC and it’s usually about 6 times a week. Sometimes more depending.

Well I’m jealous,

We have been together around 26 years (since our teens) and have sex 2-3 times a week.

Although, we did have sex twice on Friday and again Sunday morning, so it’s been a good weekend 😁

A lot less when the children were small. I think that is probably the same for most couples. It didn't bother us at the time and of course as kids got older, it was more often.

@Maggiesfarm exactly I think so too xx

3dc 7 year old twins and 15 months. It’s taken us a while to get back to ‘normal’ intimacy levels since having DD and it all depends on how crap my week has been. Sometimes I’m just too tired. But I’d say we would average 2 times a week. For the first year after DD was born we would have been lucky to manage once a fortnight. I find the more I’m intimate (and I’m not talking just sex) the more I want too. Sometimes just having a cuddle or him playing with my hair to put me to sleep when I’m really tired makes me want to jump him. Him doing spontaneous cleaning after work or putting the kids to bed is the best foreplay in this house

Together 25 years, pretty much always been once a week or so, apart from when we had a baby to contend with and then it was rare.

Twice a week but I'd like more.

About once a month, sometimes a little more .Together 9 years, one DD.

About 4 times a month - so, most weeks but not always. Suits me fine, DH less so.

BTW, older kids - less about them, more about my lack of drive!

What's sex?

Sometimes daily, sometimes weekly, sometimes monthly. Depends what else is going on at the time. We currently average about once a week for standard, functional sex and about once a month for a longer, kinkier session when the kids are elsewhere for the night. We have had periods of daily, and our biggest drought was around 8 months, so swings and roundabouts really. As long as you communicate and are on the same page it doesn't matter.

Twice this year 😬

Zero times in 10 years 5 months......

Funnily enough less as the kids have got older. Nothing more off putting than teenagers clomping around when you’re halfway through. That and peri menopause has definitely put a dampener on things.

Ovulation really really helps

I think I could certify my self as a virgin again!
Not that I want to well I do but just not with him

3 dc around twice a week for us it isn't enough for me

I just checked the app I'm using to track my cycles as we're trying to conceive number 2. We have sex an average of 5 times a month, so approx once a week.
Bit shit when ttc really, but like you said op, life with a toddler can be tiring.