We don't do anything

[Mikethenight2good]

Life is just so depressing...we don't do anything. Ever.

We don't go out for family time unless I organise it.
We don't do dates anymore unless I organise it (gave up last year )
He will let the kids sit on iPad all day

There is no fun. I gave up today. Went to bed and just cried. Even the washing in the machine is still there..I bet no one has hung it out.

It's work. Or home. Nothing else.
I do do stuff with friends which is fun but I can't do that all the time. Would just love some family fun. (& Some couple fun if I be honest)

How old are the kids? Just organise something for you and them.

Yes agree, you've got to get on with it, just you & the kids. You'll actually stop being so upset by it the more you feel fulfilled by spending time as a family, you & the kids.

In a similar situation OP. I tried to arrange family days and it would end up with him in a huff or just a disaster so I just arrange things and take my mum (son has SEN).

No constructive advice to share but I can sympathise x

Maybe lower your expectations? I’m sorry, but life with little ones is hard. The early years are a struggle and you both have to make sacrifices. Family time- couldn’t that just be having a lunch together in the garden? Playing a board/outside game together? If he doesn’t do it, you should try to make the effort, maybe it will improve things. And also talk to him about how you are feeling. Get help like a cleaner if housework is taking over your life. X

I can sympathise with this totally! I’m just getting on with my life now with it without him