Well I presume he's one. We can't actually diagnose someone but it seems pretty obvious. The way at first I was incredible and the best thing to have happened to him in his 45+ years on this earth. At first I felt like the luckiest girl in the world. To find someone who really appreciated me and couldn't get enough. But then the cracks started to show.
Several other women.
Put downs.
Claiming I was always confusing him.
Lies and stories changing.
Mood swings.
Wreckless behaviour.
Bad attitude.
It was quite scary when I walked away. It was literally like everything he had ever said needed to be turned around and that was then the truth. The literal opposite.
This guy was so twisted he would send me things like "id never cheat because my dad cheated on my mum and I would never ever want to be like him"
"Men at work speak so terribly about women they are dating"
"I'd never use dating apps. Women are worse than men"
This was the man on dating apps. Messaging loads of women and who had cheated on his ex and lost her.
He was even more twisted that he does the same things for different women. So he wanted me to buy things that his ex had. Or drink wine like she did. I found out he sent the same memes and songs to me and another woman. He always wanted to take me out to the exact same zoos, countries and restaurants he took his ex. His ex loved steak night with him at a local restaurant. So he asked me very early on if I like steak. She liked wine with her Sunday lunch. So he asked me if I liked wine with Sunday dinner.
He messed me up so it took a few months and quite alot of tears and coffee with friends to fully see what was happening. he was using his mental health as am excuse to get away with things and watering down stories so he was victim.
In the end I saw red. I went to a cousin of his. I asked her some questions and she confirmed he was horrible to women. She said she loved him as he's family. But he needs to sort himself out. She said even she had backed off abit from him as he wont listen to her advice. I then spoke to a woman who had a brief fling with him. She confirmed he had wrecked her life and was a liar too.
Finally I contacted another woman who I was suspicious off.she confirmed they had been meeting up for sex. He found out straight away that I had messaged her and so he called me. Started yelling. I hung up and messaged him why I was finished with him. I'd pieced it all together. I blocked him on Facebook and messenger. He blocked my phone number when we had a row smd claimed he could t unblock it.
The lady he was sleeping with was mortified. Expressed concern about if he was clean sexually. Told me he was not good enough to her and she'd never have a realtionship with him as he's an ex drinker. She told me she had an 11 year old and she would not want him in her child's life. She then said his house was mucky and she had to clean it before she slept over.
It's been a month. All was peaceful. Then my friend told me she had seen he was writing on this woman's pictures still. So she decided to stick with being his friend despite me telling her he was triangulating us with many others.
It annoys me so much that he just keeps getting away with his horrible ways.
Anyway last night I popped on wattsapp to message my friend. I have never used it to communicate with him apart from once he sent me a link on there months ago. He blocked me on there when I ended it. Last night his pictures back. So at some point yesterday he thought he would randomly unblock me on there. not that he can see anything about me on there.
But I'm just in disbelief. After everything he still can't quite leave me alone completely. He knows how much he hurt me. he knows exactly what I think of him.he knows I rumbled him big time. He did not like that I contacted people to find things out. He doesn't know about his cousin though. Just the two women.
These men really never stop with their twisted games do they?