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How much one-to-one time with a 13 year old?

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FortunesFave · 04/07/2021 09:05

Is reasonable/normal?

I have two DDs and my youngest is 13 and VERY demanding of my time. She does have ADD and stuggles to stay engaged on anything other than watching movies or TV shows and sometimes painting and drawing.

I take her out just us two about 2-3 times per week on average. These trips are for things like visiting her fave charity shop and having a coffee/cake etc and a long walk.

I also sit with her during the evening for a chat and a cup of tea. I go into her room at least once an evening to check up on her and also hang out with her and my other DD in the main sitting room.

She constantly asks me to sit with her though...asks me to sit on the balcony (we're in Oz) and chat...I do and then she whines that I'm not interesting enough or keeping the convo going!

She'll say "Talk to me!" and I then feel pressure or unwilling as it's so much pressure on me to be entertaining. She's also scoff at what I suggest we chat about and say "That's boring!
and she'll have a tantrum when I go in and say I've had enough.

DH says she bullies me...he's right! But I don't know what to do.

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FortunesFave · 04/07/2021 09:06

She does have friends and gets on well with them...she's popular at school but struggles academically though her teachers say she's utterly charming to them and to her peers as well as being chosen as a mentor for younger kids she also volunteers in the library.

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