Struggling a bit with this and outside views would be helpful. Don't want to go into too much outing detail but have a longstanding, decades long, friend. I feel like our friendship is fine when all is well, but recently I was really struggling with something and she just disappeared, totally blanked me. I realised looking back she's done this in the past, when I lost a parent I didn't hear from her for over a year for example. She's not good with emotion I think. But I've been supportive to her when she was going through difficult times herself, so it feels like a one way street.
She lives a way away and it's hard to get her to meet up, I tend to go to her or meet in the middle, she's never been to my place.
Would you stick with a friend who's only there during the good times and disappears when things get difficult? I wonder if I'm just hanging on to it because I've known her so long rather than anything else.