I need to get out of relationship please help me

[babyblues21]

I have a small baby and PND. Partner is making my mental health so much worse. How do I go about getting out of this? I'm so scared

Bumping for you. Do you have a friend or family you can go to?

Phone women’s aid, they can advise you.

Can you go to parents/family to get a break from him and take time to decide what to do?

See the section in this link called what to include in your safety packing list

www.womenshealth.gov/relationships-and-safety/domestic-violence/leaving-abusive-relationship

Who owns the property you live in. Can you call a relative round to be there when you tell him you want to leave, don't do it alone.

What are you scared of, going it alone or him? Can you tell us what's going on so we can advise?

What is it that scares you? Do you feel he'd hurt you? Are you scared about where to go? About if you can cope? Do you have anyone in RL you trust?

I'm scared about coping by myself

@Notaroadrunner

Can you go to parents/family to get a break from him and take time to decide what to do?

No I have no family I can go to

What is your living situation OP? Do you own or rent, are you named on the tenancy/mortgage? Is he?

If you are in LA housing they are usually pretty good about either getting an abusive partner out or re-housing you and DC elsewhere. Depends on local housing stock of course. But you'll be high priority.

Definitely contact woman's aid, and in the short term make sure you've got important documents in a place ready to grab and go.

It's a joint private tenancy.

If it's a joint tenancy can you find something else for you and your dc and then give notice to your landlord?

Are you safe, OP?

If your partner is making your mental health worse, you'll feel better as soon as you're out. Do you already feel better when you're you're not in the presence of your partner?

@TheFoundations

Are you safe, OP?

If your partner is making your mental health worse, you'll feel better as soon as you're out. Do you already feel better when you're you're not in the presence of your partner?

Yes I feel better when he's gone

He's not physically violent but he does raise his voice at me when he gets really angry/frustrated , pushed me once when drunk (years ago and never again since) and often ignores me when I'm upset. But most of the time he's nice to me and does a lot to help practically. He's just not very good emotionally

If you feel better when he's gone, you'll feel better when you've left, and you will feel better always, and you will have upped your level of self respect, which will have a big positive impact on your mental state.

Get some support and advice from Women's Aid. In the nicest possible way, they've seen your situation a thousand times before, and they'll know all the best things to do to make this as easy as it can be for you. Unlike him, they will listen to you when you're upset, so you'll get some much needed emotional validation.

It's good that you've recognised that you need to get out; that's already a big step you've taken that many never do. You'll be doing the most brilliant thing for your little one to leave an emotionally abusive/neglectful home.