How many chances does a person deserve?

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No but seriously? When do you just say okay your chances are cut off at this point?

Depends what they've done, but the answer is it's up to you. You can finish a relationship at any point you like, for any reason you like.

It depends on what they are doing.

Hitting you - one chance

Not cuddling the cat - a few chances

@Clickbait I have an ex who I've told I was done with for many different reasons. I know he loves me, but I just don't think it'll ever work. He on the other hand wants to prove to me that he is better and can change. I just don't have the time for it but I also feel like I'm being hard on him. I'm always hard on people though, anytime I'm wronged I'm done. I feel like that's wrong of me to write people off so easily but i don't trust men after they do something wrong to me or play with my feelings.

It's not about being hard on him or not, it's about how you want to spend your life.

Ok, I am a hard faced, short fused, intolerant bitch.

For me, I’m done with it moments of meeting someone with my gut feeling.
It’s never let me down.
People don’t get any chances with me from the get go.

So. I like to think that no relationship would survive even the smallest let down.

My now DH had to run a gauntlet of tests, teetering on the edge of being thrown out at any moment. He wasn’t aware of this though.

When you grow up in a domestic violence household with two parents who are just bastards to each other and their kids, you vow to NEVER allow this into your life when you have choices as a person. That was my barometer.

My answer is none.

If you're done you're done. You don't need to try and explain or justify why. They can have as many chances as you choose to give them. It sounds like his have run out. Good to you for sticking to your guns.

@imaginethemdragons I honestly don't blame you at all. When people show there true selves the first time it's just best to move on. Im learning that now.

If you've told him you're done and he isn't listening then I wouldn't go back to him to be honest. Sounds like you've decided it's over and so why would you want to go out with him again. Move on and he will hopefully do the same and leave you alone.

@girlmom21

If you're done you're done. You don't need to try and explain or justify why. They can have as many chances as you choose to give them. It sounds like his have run out. Good to you for sticking to your guns.

Yeah the relationship with him has definitely ran its course. I'll have to block him, because he is not giving up and I hate to say over and over again that I'm done. It's exhausting.

Ask him to stop contacting you. Don't respond with long messages etc. Just nice and simple, it is over. Then yeah block him if that doesn't work.

@MouldyPotato I've done that. He literally told me he wasn't giving up and that he loves me. Just going on and on.

OK, he's a weirdo stalker. Block him.

Block him then. Keep a record of communication in case it escalates.

That’s a red flag in itself the fact that he will not accept it’s over after being told repeatedly.

You don't owe anyone a chance at a relationship. This guy is a manipulative controlling arse and you need to block. If he continues to harass you report him to the police.

I gave my late husband far too many chances, and as a result I would now consider myself a 'fuck up and you're out' kind of person. Which means I will probably be single for the rest of my life. I am fine with that.