Help! Possible cheating or not?

[lonelylou09]

Not entirely sure what to say so I'll just come out and say I think I've just realised I've got genital herpes.
I've had issues down there for the past few weeks... intense itching and soreness but not thrush.
I put it down to too many long hot baths and just treated it with some in and out creams to ease it.
Seems to be clearing up now but I could feel something and had a look and I've got 3 blister like spots. Just had a Google as you do and it looks like genital herpes.
Am now feeling horrified and obviously I'll go and get it checked out properly as soon as I can.

Now the tricky part ...could that have come from my partner or something else?
I'm in a relationship of over 2 and a half years. We've lived together most of that time and I've never had any reason to suspect him of anything before.
I haven't been near anyone else and we barely have sex as it is ..maybe once a month if that.
We did have sex a few weeks ago although I was fine for a week or so after.
Because we so rarely have sex it's not like I can check him for anything and I've just been away for a week so I feel like if I mention to him I've got something he will suspect me.
So now don't know what to think...has he cheated? I've read it could be something that's laid dormant but surely after all this time if that's the case it would of shown up before now?
I just feel dirty and sore now and confused

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I think you need to make sure that's what you definitely have and if so, maybe talk to your partner about it!

Do you or he have a cold sore or had one in the past ?
Once we have the Herpes Simplex virus it stays with us forever unfortunately and can flare up at any time - in particular feeling stressed run down or bright sunlight seems to do it for me !
You can transfer that to your own genitals or he could via oral sex ?
I think the best thing is to find a GUM clinic locally and have a full check up ( both of you would be great )
Then you know exactly where you stand and if you need any treatment or not
It's not the end of the world , just better to not ignore these things too long
Good luck 💐

As far as I am aware, you can have herpies for years without it flaring up. Me may have given it to you without realising he had it himself, or you could have had it since before you had been with him. That's if it is herpies.

From what I have read the initial herpes symptoms can be quite severe, although can lay dormant and have a flair up later. It's wise to find out if you can if it's definitely what you have. Herpes can certainly lay dormant for a long time. I remember my Mum having a bad cold sore when she was ill, I had never known her to have one before.

Hi yes I think definitely herpes from googling images it looks exactly the same. I had warts year ago and it's not that. More like blisters and there were a lot of them so no wonder I've been so sore and itchy.
I spoke to him about it in the morning as I didn't want to keep it hidden and wanted to be open about it. He was really great about it so that's a relief.
Yes I'll be calling the clinic in the morning and see what they say..usually they do drop ins but since covid it's been difficult to actually see anyone.
I think it was just a knee jerk reaction to suspect him when it's something like that and you know you haven't done anything.
Neither of us have had cold sores. I think I had one last year at some point but am not generally prone to them.