How much of yourself do you change to be attractive?

[DisastrouslyMe]

I'm 29 and I've never had a boyfriend, which is obviously horribly embarrassing as well as miserably lonely.

I really don't meet men. I did my teaching degree immediately after school and there are no male teachers in my school. I don't dress Reception teachery (no Seasalt or Fatface or Joules!) but somehow people always spot me as a Reception teacher.

A friend invited me to her party and I was chatting to a man there, but afterwards he said to her that I was too Miss-Honey-ish.

I feel shit, but I think I know what he means. I'm not cool and attractive and mysterious.

Your friend sounds like a twat. Is envious of you for some reason?

There’s nothing wrong with being Miss Honeyish ! A lot of men love a wholesome vibe.

You just carry on being you, and figure out what sort of man you might actually be interested in and what type of relationship you’d like for the future.

Maybe focus on meeting some lovely female friends - who don’t pass on remarks designed to hurt your feelings. As a bonus they will have male friends and relatives so might introduce you to men you’d like to get to know

There was research a few years ago that said men’s ideal woman was:

29
A teacher
Brunette
With blue eyes.

I feel a lot more positive today, but I just want to meet someone.

Thank you btw. I’ve read all the comments and appreciate them all

I know so many people who met their husband after 29.

I also know lots of men who would love a Miss Honey as their wife! (Maybe not as their fling, but definitely as their wife.)

Miss Honey is lovely!
More fool him I say, enjoy your peace, your geek in shining armour will come 💖

I was a reception teacher when I met my husband, I really never thought of it as an off putting profession to a man. Get out there on OLD and keep positive would be my advice.

Online dating is just a way of meeting more people. It's a numbers game and you need to meet more men so you have more chance of finding a good match. I bet there are plenty of men who'd love to date you, but unless you put some concerted effort into finding them, you'll never know. There are some fun OLD threads on this board - might inspire you? How about trying to just have a lot of short, one hour dates and trying to be open minded about who you'll meet. Just see what happens. At the very least it will clarify your ideas about what you want.
Good luck!