Should I contact him again?

[Cheeseandtomato15]

Brief history. Been in touch with an old flame for a while. He’s recently become single. We met up about a month ago but haven’t since. It’s me who usually initiates texts but he always replies very quickly. I’ve suggested meeting up again and he says he’d like to but noting had been arranged. Have talked on the phone and we both said we still felt a connection all this time (20 years). He said I’d always been in his thoughts.
Not heard from him for 2 weeks now and not sure what to do. Should I contact him and suggest meeting again or just let him go?

Thanks for all the comments. I think I’ll leave it for a week or so. If I’ve still not heard from him I’ll contact him like @AnaViaSalamanca suggested
I’ll know once and for all then!

Right I decided not to wait - have just sent potentially my last ever text to him…..

Good luck OP! I personally think you have done the right thing (and I know opinions differ on this). I simply couldn’t be doing with waiting around.

Either way you will have your answer now. I think you have been very brave…..

@Lovelydiscusfish thank you. Well, i just decided there’s no point in delaying….!

Totally agree!

Has he read it yet?

@Lovelydiscusfish not yet but he works some evenings.

You’ve done the right thing anyway. Obviously have everything crossed for you that it does work out - but if it doesn’t at least you can walk away now with clarity, not always wondering about it…..,

I'd leave it.
But if you're really bothered then maybe say
"Hi, how's your week been? Did you fancy that drink next week, maybe on X?'
If he dodges it again then you can see in black and white he is wasting your time.

Let us know OP.

I hope it works out xx

He read it and replied soon afterwards. His said dad’s been very unwell so he had to spend time with him. Said he’d like to meet up but has issues he’s trying to sort out.

I’d wish him well with his dad, and leave it at that. You may well find the days and weeks pass, and you don’t hear back. Remember: silence is a form of communication so if he’s not contacting you, he is telling you he doesn’t want to contact you (I’ve learnt this lesson the hard way )

It’s hard to know what to make of that OP. It’s true that people do deal with stress differently so this COULD be reason he hasn’t been in touch. However, not texting at all for two weeks seems an extreme stress reaction if he’s genuinely into you. Sending the odd text is doable, even when one is really struggling. For example, my current fella (I am learning) needs to take some space when he is stressed - but not two weeks’ radio silence worth of it…..,

Or, he could just be giving you a gentle let-down.

I would probably assume the latter and move on with my life. Is there anyone else you could date or chat with meantime? If this one comes back properly, then you can make the call. But I wouldn’t consider myself locked in to him, based on his current conduct.

Bless you - it’s tough! Xxx

Sounds like it’s not ideal timing for him to be starting up / escalating a relationship. I’d say give him lots of space and try to get on with your life. Could be months before he’s in a good place to consider getting together with someone. If you pursue him when he’s not ready, you could ruin it altogether.

Thanks everyone. I’ve asked him if he want to talk about whatever the problem is. If I don’t hear from him, I’ll just leave things.

Well, he’s read it and not replied, so I guess I have my answer 😢

I'd wait a bit and contact him one more time. Why not if you like him.

That's a shame. Didn't see your last post.

Yes- let this one go for now and put your effort somewhere else. someone out there will be desperate to contact you and you won't ever have to question it.

He’s now said he’d still like to meet for a drink …

Don't chase him. You've given him the ego boost he needed after becoming single again.

He's tailed off now. You met him a month ago, he's not texted for a fortnight.

He's lost interest.

Cross posted, sorry.

But I would let him now set the time and date for a drink and not contact him again. If he wants to meet up he can arrange something.