Is your DH much older than you?

[lulupop]

...and if so, how do you get along? Just being nosy really, as my DH is 12 yrs older than me, and strangely, I feel the age gap is more of an issue now than when we met. I'd always assumed that as we got older, it would seem less and less of an issue, but instead I am noticing it more these days. What are your experiences?

8 years thats all

other fart was 35 last week

Dh is 8 years older than me and it works brilliantly.

My dh is 8 years older than me. It was never really an issue for us but I noticed it more when we were first together (I was at Uni and he was working and therefore had more money) but now, he's just as big a kid as the kids! I've always felt that I was slightly more the grown up in the relationship but actually, he has made me grow up and keeps me young at the same time!

7 years

dh 14 years older than me. Felt weird when I was still a teenager (and dm went mad!), but fine now. He's a very young 40something!

Mine is also 12 years older than me and I probably notice it more now than when we met 5 years ago. I think it's mostly in the sense that I constantly want to be out doing things and he's content to sit in front of the tv (or is that just men full stop??!) I'm 27 and he's 39. We have a fair amount in common with our interests etc although we do agree to differ on some things like music where i would like more new stuff and he likes old. I also thought it would get better as we got older but it doesnt seem to be the case with us either!

7yrs and at one time it was hard coz i still wanted to go out rave, but he has finally come to my way of thinking that at 40 he is not ols for a social life love himxxxx

My husband was 8.5 years older than me. We met when he was 28 and I was 19. The age difference was never really an issue, and became less and less so.

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Zephyrcat, I'm 29 and DH just turned 41. He also loves his TV! Bless him , though, he recently cancelled the sports & movies element of our Sky as it was too expensive and we really only need all the kids' stuff.

That said, though, it amazes me how he'll just sit and flick flick flick through the channels rather than get up and do something with DS. DD still just a baby, but I do wish he'd get out with them more. This is what is on my mind really - he seems so set in his ways and I feel like I'm just getting going with life.

How many of you share your social life with DH? I find my DH never seems to get on much with "my" friends, while I always make a real effort with his. Think I am more interested in getting other people to like me, while he doesn't care!

Sorry mine is younger than me by 2 years, he's my toyboy...

Hiya lulupop - sounds like they could be brothers!! dp doesn't actually 'watch' tv - just flicks and flicks and flicks or will start watching some crap that finishes in 10 minutes anyway!?! Sometimes when dd talks to him I have to shout at him to get his attention off the tv and answer her makes me mad!!! As for sharing a social life - where do I begin?! We used to as he ran a pub, but since having little ones we've moved away and have no-one to babysit so we never go anywhere! When we did go out he never really liked my friends either but got offended if I didnt like his. Where abouts are you lulupop? maybe we should go out and leave them flicking together!!

I'm in Tunbridge Wells, where are you? I'm gagging for a decent night out!
Was just having this conversation with a local friend yesterday - she and her DH are out all the time, but mine's always at home watching Discovery Wings or whatever.
Honestly, it's hard to believe when we met we never watched TV - we lived abroad so the TV was so rubbish anyway, we actually sat down and talked over our evening meal. Oh, happy days...

my dh is 8 3/4 years older than me, we met when I was 18 and he was 27, we've been together 16 1/2 years, married for 11! tbh it makes no difference...apart from his health being a little more fragile than mine he's 18 in my eyes...(age is what you make it...yound at heart and he is young at heart)!!

lol i just asked dp where tunbridge wells is and he took the p**s out of me then said he didnt know??!!??! We're between Andover and Salisbury. We were the same - never ever watched tv!! Being in a pub in a big town we were constantly out and rarely sober!! ....... those were the days!!God i miss them!

I'm 42, DH is 55 and we have been together for 13 years. I never felt it was an issue until recently. We have a very similar outlook on life and the relationship feesl very equal. However, he is finding it hard to be working full time and then helping with childcare after returning from work and at weekends (DD is 22 months). He gets very tired (so do I, for that matter), but he seems to take longer to bounce back after a night of broken sleep.

Hi Oldiemum - my dp will be 40 in January and he also finds it harder to bouce back anymore. Everything seems to wear him out these days whilst I'm nagging at him to get out and do things!

My DH is 16.5 yrs older than me - and about twenty times fitter than me.

He plays Tennis twice a week (for upto 3 hrs) and dances 2-4 times a week

AND everyone says that he looks younger than me

I am 37 and my dh is 50 so quite a large gap. The only time it has been a 'problem' was when I had dd and the midwife thought he was my dad! It's not as though dh looks that old. When he had his 50th birthday this year a lot of people were shocked as they thought he was a lot younger. Therefore, I must look incredibly young for my age mustn't I??!!

Btw I once overheard my friend's dad calling her mum his 'little sex kitten'. He is 14 years older than her and they have been married 50 years!

lol Pixel, something similar happened to us once: when we took my younger brother shopping for a suit for our wedding, we were looking in M&S and a shop assistant asked DH (then DP) if we needed any help. No, he goes, she (meaning me) can choose something for him, she's good like that. Oh, goes this woman, "are they yours? it's nice when your kids get on so well isn't it?"

DP nearly died and was in a foul mood for the rest of the day!

That bouncing back after a bad night thing is what's made me think about this, I suppose. DH is 41 and not particularly fit or youthful for his age, and really goes on about how exhausted he is a lot of the time. Last night DD was up 4 times with her cold, and DS had a bad bout of croup. So I've been up and about since 4am while he's just got out of bed, and he still looks knackered!

Doesn't stop him asking if we can have a third child though.

Zephyrcat, I spent my teenage years in Andover (dad in army), and my parents still live near there. In fact I still trek all the way from here to Salisbury to get my hair cut as haven;t been able to find anyone as good near me.

My DH is 11 years older than me, my mum was a very young mum and was only 15yrs when I was born! So that sometimes made me feel a bit funny!! We've been together 10 years now though and he is such a big kid despite the fact he is
48. I know what other people have said about this
tv watching though, he can sit and watch this UK History channel for hours on end, drives me mad!! Oh yes, and he always has to watch football on tv, but has maybe kicked a ball about with DS twice ever (DS is 7 !) and that was after I told him to! Despite these little ways of his, I do love him loads, and he really has got much more time for us than most of my/our friends hubbies!

Yes. Too F**cking old.

how old is that then, Carla??

Hi all

My dh is 10.5yrs older but still acts about 5!!

The usual problems start rising from this age - or not as the case may be!! He does his best, ahhh blessssss.