About 6 months I started a new hobby (a dance) and met a woman whose partner teaches this dance and she is his teaching assistant.
I learned the dance with someone else (not this couple)
This woman became my friend in the last few months. I haven't really shared much with her as I didn't fully trust her, but we messaged every day for a few months and saw each other a lot at the dance parties we go to.
She is very full on...messages everyday, and lately with very affectionate words that seem to be increasing in intensity (we haven't know each other that long so this makes me wary.) Things like love you always, and sending so much love today. I'm thinking, we've only known each a few months!!
Before I realised that she was too full on, I decided I wanted to learn the style that this couple teaches and so I signed up for one of their private classes. The second class we had was very odd. Her partner (the teacher) was creepy and inappropriate and kept trying to massage me. She ignored it. She screamed at him and swore at him (this was before the attempted massaging) and I also noticed that she talks disrespectfully about her partner a lot. We had dinner together twice with her partner there and I noticed there was a lot of controlling behaviour from her with him. Ordering him around about small things. I was so uncomfortable.
The day of the weird private class, it became clear that she was also trying to profit from me as she encouraged me to buy something that I didn't need and misled me about my need for it because she made a cut from the sale. There were some high pressure tactics involved.
After the 2nd class, I told her that I don't have money to continue as there's been a change in my income (which is actually true.) I also said I am working more hours (also true) so don't have as much time as before for messaging. I said all of this to distance myself.
She continues to message daily with affectionate things that are doing my head in. She is also overbearing and bossy in the messages. I feel infantilised when I read them.
She is even offering me free classes (I told her I don't have time for that.)
I paid for a block of classes in advance (4 lessons) and have only used 2. Not sure if I should ask for my money back. I just want to get as far away from this couple as possible.
But I don't want to create awkwardness in the community we're a part of as we see each other socially, but I don't know how to deal with it.
I feel like I'm screwed because if I'm honest with her and true to myself, there will be awkwardness when we see each other. And if I'm not honest, I'll be pretending to be her friend when we see each other socially and at other times.
:(
Anyone have any advice?
Should I just continue to say I'm busy and broke? How on earth do you respond to things like "love you" from someone you've known for all of 3 months. I feel like I'm being love bombed and manipulated somehow and just want to get as far as possible away.