My mother in law is very toxic toward me, subtly but dislikes me and i dislike her.. After many years of trying to get her to like me, I've given up - since having my son, she has got worse as I have set boundaries.
She usually stays at our house, but not at the moment, husband is keeping her away. He still goes every other weekend to visit her with our son for the full day.
She is manipulative, toxic and I don't trust her.
She loves my son so I have no reason to not let them have a relationship, but I feel she may ruin this at some point. Either by saying something about me or just being disrespectful. I wouldn't know yet as he is too small.
She has a bad effect on me and to be honest, I dislike the thought of my son with her, even if it is for the day. She is controlling. My husband will be present but also is controlled by her, she says jump he says 'how high?'
Thank god he has just started therapy. Husband also asks me if i'm happy for them to go. I guess i just need to accept she is his Grandma.
Anyone been through this - what was the outcome? did it work better when you let them have their own relationship?
Thanks in advance!