Being asked out constantly at work

[Rosieandjim04]

So I am fat , facially I'm pretty if I try , I don't make an effort with my appearance at work or wear makeup. I don't get asked out much not that I go out much because of covid . I work night shifts in a mental health hospital I've been asked out 5 times by men from different countries mainly Africa on a few different shifts . What is going on ? Do they actually have good intentions ?

"Do they actually have good intentions ?"

Do you have good intentions posting this

I was thinking that schools hadn't broken up yet, but of course they have in Scotland.

Hard to say without knowing the individuals. The simplest explanation is that they fancy you and thought they would try their luck. I would always treat a workplace romance with caution though - unless it goes beautifully well you may be setting yourself up for a lot of awkwardness or some ill feeling if things don't work out.

I had when single a policy of not accepting dates with people I work with (though flexible depending on size of organisation and how closely we work together/whether there is a power differential). There are so many men out there, why risk the hassle? This is just my approach though 😁

They come all the way from Africa to ask you out?

I love how different the last two answers are.

Is it the Patients asking you out or other staff members?

I would just say thanks for asking but I don't date people from work. the word will get round soon enough.

You're in a mental hospital, surely that alone would give you an answer to your question

In some parts of Africa being plump is seen as symbol of having a good life and being attractive

My friend from south Africa is mixed race and she told me that a lot of the men like a fuller figure, especially bigger bottoms. Thought god I'm finally in fashion somewhere!

@romdowa

You're in a mental hospital, surely that alone would give you an answer to your question

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I've heard that in some African regions,being fat is desirable

What is going on ? Do they actually have good intentions ?

Are you actually considering dating one of your patients if their intentions are good, OP?

Honorable intentions or looking for a marriage of convenience (residency etc.)

They obviously fancy you, what their intentions are beyond that is anybody's guess, as in most situations where men fancy you.

Haven’t you got an OH and a daughter? You reference them in other posts so why are you even asking?

@Geamhradh

They come all the way from Africa to ask you out?

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I worked on a mental health ward, one of the agency nurses who happened to be from Africa actually asked a patient out!
I had to whistle blow on that .

@Markesmithh

I worked on a mental health ward, one of the agency nurses who happened to be from Africa actually asked a patient out! I had to whistle blow on that .

Did anything happen to the nurse?

Yes it’s an obvious joke to ask if it’s colleagues asking the OP out or whether it’s the patients, but it’s borderline taste! So let’s assume that it’s colleagues.

In pre OLD days, they say most people met their relationships at work, so why not? But subject to the qualification that if it doesn’t work then you have to cope with the fallout in a work situation.

And as for being fat OP, you’re being hard on yourself if you think you’re unattractive and appealing only to people from another culture. I’m sure you’re attractive anyway.

I'll PM you.