Does ur OH support ur dreams

[Angelinaa1x]

Heyy everyone just wanted someone to speak to and get some advice

So me and my husband got into bit of an argument so he decided to stay at his mums and came back home today. Whilst away hes been at work, not really spoke to me. Ive been was recently working on my new hobby - baking which i want to take on as a new career

Being with lo it's a thing i practice once shes asleep so its something i do every now and then but have great passion in

I just feel so upset because i feel like my husband isn't supportive of anything i do,, he doesn't compliment me, doesn't cheer me on etc and its wearing me down.
When i showed him the cake i said do u like the design babe, he reply its okish but sounded so off.

He expects to be supported and i do support his career but when im thinking for myself he never cheers me on tells me if i could improve but gives blunt answers like okish

Is this normal behaviour or he doesn't care much for me a person

I feel like this topic really broke me down why can't he be exiting, funny, be caring and it upset me so much of not getting cheered by him that i got extremely teary.. He said i pick up fights over tiny things for example ur being a drama again

I feel like the reason im also so upset is because i feel like my life was on hold whilst he carried on and when i finally think of myself its like he cant be there to support my dream also

Am i just being unreadable or is that man just uncaring of my feelingss ..

I can't understand

My ex was like this OP- never bothered or supportive of the things that mattered to me, whether big or small. He was a nice man generally but over time I realised his lack of support indicated that he didn't care much for me.

My boyfriend now is my biggest cheerleader, and I finally feel like I'm a part of a team. I would never settle for anything else again.

My ex didn't give a shit about me either. He was uninterested and unsupportive of anything I did. I thought I was being needy. I wasn't.

My now husband is the direct opposite of this and I have come on leaps and bounds with him cheering me on from the sidelines.

When I was with ex I felt stupid for wanting to try new things and experiment with what I wanted to do with my life. He belittled me and I felt so small and insignificant. It was his way of keeping me down, breaking my spirit and my confidence. He used this tactic (and others) to control me and keep me in a box.

Is he controlling in other ways, OP?

My husband is really supportive of me and my career goals as he should be

Are there any redeeming qualities?

I'm kinda going to rain on your parade too. If it's a new hobby how good are you to decide it'll be a career? It's a huge jump from new hobby to career. Have you actually researched how to turn this into a professional money maker? Dreams are great to have, but have to be backed up with realism. Practicing now and again isn't going to get you to professional standard. Have you looked at hygiene regulations, marketing, profit margins, how tp do a business plan?

Yes my husband is always supportive of things I want to do and vice versa, I think it's very important in a relationship

He sounds like he could be emotionally abusing you?

Are there other things?

Is he worried that you may start expecting him to fund your baking hobby/career?

Yes he does, and yours doesn't sound at all encouraging. It would actually be best for him if you have the flexibility of being self employed around caring for your little one so he's being pretty short sighted as well as unpleasant. I actually work with a few bakers who work from home and have built up from scratch, please feel free to message me if you'd like any support or pointers.

@Thingsdogetbetter

I'm kinda going to rain on your parade too. If it's a new hobby how good are you to decide it'll be a career? It's a huge jump from new hobby to career. Have you actually researched how to turn this into a professional money maker? Dreams are great to have, but have to be backed up with realism. Practicing now and again isn't going to get you to professional standard. Have you looked at hygiene regulations, marketing, profit margins, how tp do a business plan?

I think there’s a way of encouraging someone and exploring all the things you would need to learn and be excited to learn them, rather than sneering from the sidelines ‘have you thought of all this with your little hobby?’

Yes. He has been the trailing spouse for my career. He finds some of my hobbies quite silly, but never stops me from spending time or money on them.

So any requests of him supporting you is met with him fucking off to his mothers for some man child attention.

God pathetic.

Don't give him anymore sucour or support.
Don't expect him to give you any sucour and support.

Carry on with your dreams and aspirations unaided by him.

Good Luck.

Yes, he's happy for me to do whatever I want. Yours should be saying, that cake looks great.