Should I be worried??

[cocomelon18]

I've been with my partner for 8 years, we have a beautiful 3 year old. Since having our DD he's been extremely distant (intimately) it's been months since we last had any adult activity and when we would it would be him waking me up at silly o'clock so you can imagine it's not very passionate or "Romantic" it leaves me feeling in a way used. He is a beautiful person and an amazing father but i hate constantly questioning myself if he's no longer attracted to me, am I doing something wrong or if he's seeing someone else. I've spoken to him a number of times to tell him how I feel and he always assures me he doesn't want me feeling how I do but doesn't really do anything to prevent it 🤷🏼‍♀️ I'm at a loss. We're now engaged and I'm questioning everything. Should I be worried? I don't know what else I can do or say 🤦‍♀️

What have you said? Has he lost his libido through life getting harder?

Dear OP, the first thing you do in situations like these is to talk to a person and you said you did. Next step, I would say would be to get some counseling, for yourself definitely, but as a couple too if he is willing. If nothing changes in the next little while, I think you should consider splitting up. Definitely DO NOT get married until this gets sorted out. Believe me with age and more kids and more responsibilities, things will only get worse and harder not better, so if you have these problems now, so early in your relationship, imagine what it will be like in five, ten years.

Good luck.