So I've been with a guy 2 years, he's a typical chap perhaps a bit selfisg and I'm a typical lass, perhaps a bit brooding. I'm a single Mum, homeowner, very financially independent, built up from nothing myself.
After 2 years I'd like us to live together, we both own houses. He's said when I buy a bigger house he will move in with us, not before and he will give me 'rent'. As it happens I'm selling to move near a good school for my child, not for a bigger house. He does want a child himself tho so is willing to go through that process to get me pregnant, that's because I'm old, so that is no romantic gesture, me having his child and having no proper commitment to me is no problem in his eyes. I feel a bit used really and a bit hurt, I'm very traditional-minded. I feel like I'm hanging on for someone who will never step up. I dream of being in a partnership working towards a marriage, but it's just a dream.
If I leave him there's no return, I never ever revisit old relationships. I've tried talking but he isn't interested, says I'm being unfair and that he's the one changing his life not me, feels he's doing enough. I'm not blind, but when I leave a relationship I really leave so I make sure I'm doing the right thing. What should I do before I make that decision either way? I want to be fair-minded if I can.