Domestic violence

[Helpmehelpmyself123]

Last night I was battered with a rucksack containing tools . Apparently he did not hit me because hitting someone involves fists .
I have contacted women’s aid asking for a place to go to today .
They have nothing and suggested I stay in a hotel or go to the Local authority.
So sick of this happening every few weeks . I feel like ending it all .

OP you need to phone Refuge: www.refuge.org.uk/

You can also try your local DV organisation, do a search on Google: Domestic Abuse Help (where you live) or look on your Council website.

Can you contact the police? Dial 101 explain what happened and they'll advise you on what to do.

The police can issue a DVPO which can get him out of the property for a month. You can also apply for an Occupation Order and Non Molestation Order, to get him out of the house. You can contact the NCDV and speak to them about it.

Make an emergency app with your Dr today and get yourself checked out because you'll need evidence of the abuse. Take photos of any bruises.

Hotel looks best today if you have money, it's getting late. Do try women's aid again and definatly register as being in housing need. If you go to council out of hours housing and social service you might get b&b for tonight.
Have you any support? Good luck, it will get better

Do you have children? If you approach the LA they will have a duty to help you if children involved

@PumpkinKlNG

Do you have children? If you approach the LA they will have a duty to help you if children involved

No they are adults now .

Report him to the police? That should get things moving in the right direction

Yes would you call the police? Then they can remove him and where he stays is his problem. So sorry that you are experiencing this - you deserve better and I am not surprised that you feel so low. Do you have anyone in RL who you can tell what has happened?

Please report to thevpolice asap.

I'm so sorry, you poor woman.
Tell your children what has happened, you need support.

Hi all.

We're just dropping by on here to say that we're sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.

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Just spoke to refuge I will ring back 10am tomorrow morning for a place to stay .

Can you go and stay with one of your adult children ? Are you safe for tonight ?

One lives here the other has no room .
My son normally protects me from being hit . He was out last night enjoying the football .

The other may be short of room but I would rather be on a couch with my son next to me in a sleeping bag than be at risk of this anymore
Any other friend or relative you could both go to tonight ? Sending you strength and best wishes 💐

@66babe

The other may be short of room but I would rather be on a couch with my son next to me in a sleeping bag than be at risk of this anymore Any other friend or relative you could both go to tonight ? Sending you strength and best wishes 💐

I have asked .she said no room .it is what it is .

Sorry to hear that
Fingers crossed then for a quiet evening and then a smooth getaway for you in the morning
Do you have access to some money ? Could you do anything tonight to secure that ?

Your local domestic violence support should be able to help you, we're are you in the country there may be other support available to you, you could attend a and e or local police station, local housing if you have no where to go tomorrow.

Go to the Police.

They've got the expertise and support to help you.

I'm sorry this is happening to you.

Please,call the police-he needs to be arrested and charged with assault (btw he's a fucking ignorant buffoon saying he didn't hit you with his fists so no assault occurred!!)

Well done on seeing you need to leave, it is easier that your DC are adults so you are no longer tied to your abuser. Have you taken photos of any injuries as evidence.

Hi, I hope you have found a safe place to stay, if you haven't and are still in the family home, don't just give up, make a plan, get all your important documents together, get a bag packed with all the things you will need and go and get some support. I was in a dv relationship for 10 years and I left a couple times but went back as I didn't have the support I needed to stay strong. Please take care of yourself

Oh op, I'm sorry, you sound so matter of fact about it.

Are you physically ok, do you need to go to A & E, you could speak to them and the police would be informed.

Is this a regualar occurrence, have you called the police before? Please think about escaping this, you don't deserve any of this, it's not fair.

He's a cunt of a man, and what he deserves I cannot say on here.
Why don't these types just die, they seem to get away with it forever.

Don't let him get away with it, you are worth a million of him, he's a nothing, a nobody just a coward who beats women.
I detest him.

Keep posting, keep talking and start fighting back lovely, we will listen and be here whenever you need to talk and be supported.

Sending hugs.

@Helpmehelpmyself123 Whereabouts in the country are you?

Like she is going to tell you. She is fleeing abuse

@Onthedunes

Oh op, I'm sorry, you sound so matter of fact about it.

Are you physically ok, do you need to go to A & E, you could speak to them and the police would be informed.

Is this a regualar occurrence, have you called the police before? Please think about escaping this, you don't deserve any of this, it's not fair.

He's a cunt of a man, and what he deserves I cannot say on here.
Why don't these types just die, they seem to get away with it forever.

Don't let him get away with it, you are worth a million of him, he's a nothing, a nobody just a coward who beats women.
I detest him.

Keep posting, keep talking and start fighting back lovely, we will listen and be here whenever you need to talk and be supported.

Sending hugs.

It’s so hard not knowing where i will be in a few weeks time . I have never called the police as always had the feeling everything’s me fault .

Not your fault. Not your fault.

I hope you are alright op, have you been in touch with any one?

None of this is your fault, no matter what the circumstances that led to the beatings.

No one and I mean NO ONE deserves another human being to beat them, there are no excuses.

Everything you believe that makes it your fault will have been brought about by him, your mental health, stress, your fear.

Please do not allow him to convince you in any way it is your fault.

He is at fault, please try to trust others to help you.
You have nothing to lose by asking for help.

I know its scary but you cannot live like this, you deserve a right to live on this earth without physical pain from another.

xx