To feel disrespected!

[SoTired00]

I don’t know whether just writing this down will help but I feel very low, I am generally a resilient person, perhaps too much sometimes but lately I’m struggling.
My husband doesn’t listen to me, when I try and talk to him about something, he will ignore me and walk away into another room, or he’ll continue watching videos on his phone, not look at me and point to the door, as if to signal to leave.

@SoTired00

He'll fucking do what???

Point to the bloody DOOR ??

Honest to God, I'd have shoved his fucking 'pointing' finger so far up his bloody arse that he'd have been struggling to fucking breathe!!

No-one, deserves to be treated with so much bloody disrespect !!

What do you do when he does that ?

I think updown speaks for many of us OP.

What? Wtf. And what do you do in return?

Lovely poster... why do you think this is all you are worth? Why do you put up with this despicable behaviour?

@updownroundandround- I tell him it’s disrespectful and that I don’t feel respected, I then leave because there’s no point staying if he doesn’t listen.
If I raise something about helping me more with the kids work load, or the fact he keeps leaving things around and not clearing up behind himself, he will accuse me of nagging. He’s also never been emotionally supportive to me either, which is difficult.

What positives does he bring to your life? If you struggle to find any then maybe it’s time to think about your happiness and make plans to leave.

Bloody hell. Is this for real?
Why on earth would you live with someone who treats you like that?

My “DP” also literally starts ignoring me and reading the paper if we’re having any discussion that’s not sweetness and light. I’m talking about 1-2 sentences in, and I’m calm and trying to discuss logically etc etc …not emotionally or anything god forbid.
Thank you, spelling it out makes me realize that it’s disrespectful (as well as soul crushing but I well felt that already).
Sorry for adding my misery OP

I would be raging if my DP acted like that. How have you nicely shown him the door, what an arrogant twat.
I’d stop doing anything for him; don’t do his washing, stop cooking for him and if he leaves things laying around they will go in the bin. When he asks, state he didn’t want to discuss it earlier and you obviously don’t respect me so why should you respect him.

OP
Your marriage is over.

Stop doing ANYTHING for him.

Reach out for support and tell the truth.

Get organised to get rid.

What a wankstain ! Get rid - you deserve so much better

Nagging is a word used by men to silence you. His lack of respect would make me very angry.
I'd break his finger he wouldn't point for weeks.

He is an abusive, stroppy manchild cunt.
Leave as soon as you can ,you will be much happier honesty, I wouldn't even bother to engage with him when he is like that.

But if anyone ever treated me with such little respect they would be grabbed by the scruff ,slung out and kicked up the arse.

You deserve better. Good luck

Easiest 13stone I lost when I got rid of human man child that I call my ex. I was terrified because I thought I would end up on my own (but I met my DH) and realised that I deserved more

Scary but honestly this is emotional abusive and you will feel better when he's gone.

@SoTired00

I know it's easy to say, but you really need to tell him that your marriage is over, and he needs to leave.

He only makes your life harder.
He doesn't love you.
He doesn't respect you.
He doesn't even want to bloody talk to you ffs !

When you leave him you will have;

The respect of your children for not staying to be abused.
Peace and harmony within your home.
Less work to do, because you won't have to clean up after him !
Less laundry/housework/ironing.
Less anxiety.
Less anger.
Less humiliation.
More happiness, because he's NOT there, making you upset.
More joy and fun with your DC, because it's not just you he upsets.
More time to do as you please.
More freedom, without judgement.
A life with love and respect

I know it's a messy, complicated thing to split and get a divorce, but until you do this, I don't think your life will ever improve, but it's almost guaranteed to get a lot worse as your DC grow and 'become' just like him ! (which he will actively encourage by the way ! So they'll all disrespect you and treat you like shit if given enough time and his influence..............)

Please, please start 'getting your ducks in a row' and leave him asap.

My exh took to try to ‘shush’ me when I was trying to talk to him. Like, I’d be in the middle of a sentence, talking normally (not shouting) and he’d go “shh” quite loudly, as if he’d just heard something and needed quiet to listen to it.

Just one of many nails in the coffin of our marriage.

That’s not disrespect. It’s active insult and that’s much worse.

Man reminds woman to do something = He reminds her.

Woman reminds man to do something = She nags him.

Utter sexist crap designed to shut women up. Next time he tells you to do something, tell him he is nagging you

@SoTired00

The respect of your children for not staying to be abused.
Peace and harmony within your home.
Less work to do, because you won't have to clean up after him !
Less laundry/housework/ironing.
Less anxiety.
Less anger.
Less humiliation.
More happiness, because he's NOT there, making you upset.
More joy and fun with your DC, because it's not just you he upsets.
More time to do as you please.
More freedom, without judgement.
A life with love and respect

This with bells on !!!!!

He just doesn't like you. Don't spend any time or energy trying to work out why or how to change it. Just start your divorce and get on with your much nicer life without him

I would be angry if a stranger treated me that way, but the person who's meant to love me most in the world? Seriously??

He is showing how important you are to him. I suspect that in practical ways he's glad you're around - you clean up after him, look after your children, feed him, keep his life running smoothly. But beyond a housekeeper he doesn't see a point to you.

You deserve so much better. And he doesn't deserve you - the person he acts so shockingly rudely and dismissively to - to make his life better. Please please please treat this seriouslty and make a change. Life will be so much happier without!