Fed up sorry

[Starbrand]

Hi im a bit fed up and feel like an idiot. Divorced my husband three years ago as he deleted a shed load of messages off his phone lied about them and never wanted to hve sex. Didnt feel supported or loved andnwe just didnt get on. He soon started a rship witj someone else who he now has a baby with (nearly two). Shes been a nightmare- overstepped no end and in general hasnt been nice. I dont deal with her often but i do feel hurt at how my ex husband has let her treat me. Ive dated but nothing serious and certainly no one id have on my sons life who is nearly 8. I jusy feel upset at how things have turned out and that im on my own. I work a stressful job and some days just feel battered whilst theyre off living this great family life. Sorry needed to vent! Anybody been here!

Feel sorry for her because he’s probably still messaging lots of girls on his phone behind her back

Thanks you @Shoxfordian it just feels like hes got his happy ending and i havent

He hasn’t because he has no integrity
You’re happier without him

You are still single because you are putting your son first and have high standards. Your exh has landed himself with a woman you describe as a nightmare.

Thanks @ravenmum i do feel likw they “get away with it” though. She barges in on face times my son has with his dad when hes at mine and says things like “love u baby” to my son. Im grateful shes kind to him but i wish she would be more thoughtful

Remember all his faults? He's the same person, and she has to put up with him.
As for her, she's being very thoughtful. She's putting on a carefully thought out performance with the barging in, to show you what she wants you to see. As long as she treats your son well, try and ignore her.
It's a long life and until you get to the end of it, you can't say whether you get your happy ending or not.

Thank you @5128gap it does wind me up but you are right ignore it. I know u are right! Just think its insensitive and my ex should call her out on it. He would hate it the other way

He can't call her out on it, as a) it would mean admitting to you that he has a very irritating gf and b) she'd be hugely pissed off to have her dp telling her what to do, essentially saying his exw is right and she's annoying.
She sounds teeth-grittingly annoying, and you can put her right yourself if she does anything that hurts your son, but basically if you can rise above it where that's more appropriate, and act like the sensible adult, then it will pay off in the end.

Thanks @ravenmum my son means the world to me - when she tried to act like his mom it really stings