Husband & Escorts.

[Jonesy1962]

We've haven't been married two years yet and I've recently found out that my husband has been using escorts. My intuition was really niggling at me so I had to investigate. He has a spare phone "work phone " and I managed to get into it. He's had loads of escorts, TVs & TSs and he's been using different aliases. He seems to be living another life. I'm going to leave him but I need to sort myself out first. Money wise & health so I can cope with the fall out when it comes. The pretence has to carry on for a little while longer.

Take your time to sort everything you need.
New bank accounts, copies of everything, important documents out of the house, special treasures out of the house.
Make lists and work your way through them.
Good luck

How pathetic and degenerate.

And how immoral.draggimg an unsuspecting woman into it - why doesn't he just fkg stay single. (Cause he wants to look like a normal guy I suppose, and have all the advantages of marriage).

Well you better not let him touch you without a condom in the meantime ... In fact even condoms don't fully prevent herpes or warts etc.

Or kiss (!) .. Because I'm always surprised by the number of punters who perform oral sex on prostitute (they call.it reverse oral) and mention it in their UK punting reviews.

And he could be doing oral on men too if he has sex with transvesities & transsexuals.

I'm so sorry that you have had to find this out about your husband. How terribly sad to find out that he is not the man you thought and has lied and cheated. I wish you strength as you work your way out of this. I am glad you have found out now and not wasted decades of your life with him.

Is there any way you could leave him/get him to leave immediately? There is no way I could pretend for one single moment.

Please get support in real life so that others can be there for you.

@888central why would she want to forgive this?!

Would you be willing to forgive him?

What the actual fuck? Why? What possible reason would any woman have to forgive this?

Would you be willing to forgive him?

Eww, why on earth would any woman want to forgive a cheating, misogynistic prick? You think that women are that desperate for a man in their life, they’d even accept one as defective as this?

WTF!?!? Why should the OP consider forgiving this!!??

Forgive him? Actually laughed at this, I can not name one man that I know that would forgive his wife cheating on him, I couldn't name one that would go onto a forum to ask for insight or help if a wife cheated, and they certainly wouldn't agonise over where they went wrong in their marriage if a wife was screwing another man. Yet day after day women come into this forum to do just that, how to forgive and move on, questioning if they were a good wife, comparing themselves to the other woman, crying over how they had so little time for their husband as they worked full time, were the default parent always and were the only one doing any of the boring housework so "poor suffering DH" was neglected as she ran herself ragged.

Two years into a marriage is the fun stuff, the worry free stuff, the still unwrapping the wedding presents and sending thank you cards but, not the escorts, deceit and health check from the sti clinic. Forget forgive him, how about fuck him off, that's more appropriate. Women need to find their anger when received and hurt, not try to figure out how to swallow some bloke's bullshit excuse for cheating, to quote the old song "he's reasons for cheating are as good as lies can be".

Thanks everyone for your comments. I had to get it off my chest. This is so hard for me and whilst I'm devastated I have to wait another while before I drop the bombshell on him. I'm just getting my mind & body back after a bad menopause. I'm now post menopausal and I'm back to person I once was. I'm planning to hit him hard with the evidence when he's not expecting it. Everyone thinks he's this wonderful family man so they're all going to be shocked, but I'm going to be ready for it. So I will not be forgiving him. I will never trust or respect him again. My MIL (deceased) did warn me. So did his x wife in a round about way, but when you're wearing rose coloured glasses nothing matters. I just thought if he loved me he'd treat me right.

The older I get the more I now see the warnings people tried to give me and I ignored because I 'knew better'. Happens to all of us.

Good luck with it all.

I'm always surprised by the number of punters who perform oral sex on prostitute (they call.it reverse oral) and mention it in their UK punting reviews.

Ugh how telling that when it comes to oral sex they think them receiving is the default and giving it is the 'reverse' of the norm. Christ.

I'm sorry this is happening to you OP, how awful. But so glad that you found out after two years and not twenty, though I know that doesn't seem much of a positive now.

You poor thing