Boyfriend gaming

[Mandela34]

So my bf will get out of bed straight on the laptop ,gaming. I don't care wen I'm at work. But on my days off its the same routine with him, we only go out if I arrange something , he makes no plans. Out routine is mostly... me watching TV or doing my own thing , him gaming.
We hav been together nearly a year. He has struggled with mental health cause of being out of work but is starting a new job next week .

Have you spoken to him about it? He sounds like a bit of a loser really, I’m sure you can do better

Time to kick him out imo. This wont improve. He is rewarding himself for being out of work. Are you financially supporting him?

Sounds shit. He’s not acting like an equal part of your life together.

You don’t have to stay with him. I’m not sure why you would. It’s a fundamental incompatibly in how you each want to spend your time.

See how he gets on in his new job. Within a few weeks you will know whether he is going to improve or not.
If his MH issues are caused by lack of work etc then things should slowly improve as he gets into the routine of working.

I wouldn't hold my breath though. I had an ex like this - I had no idea how bad he was until we moved in together. He wasn't gaming though, he was pontificating on various cycling forums and doing who knows what else online. When he had a job he was actually worse because then he did absolutely FUCK ALL apart from go to work, walk in the house, switch the laptop on and glue himself to the internet until it was time for him to go to sleep.

So yeah... perhaps hang on a bit to see if he does get better but don't be too disappointed if he doesn't.... if he doesn't improve, leave him and move on.

I had a bf like that, gaming or glued to fb little to no attention on me, I'd Chuck him out, you can't change selfish, self absorbed people, find someone better that appreciates spending time with you.
If he's the kind of guy that's always in and out of work, just bin the loser off.

See how it goes when he's back at work. Lack of routine can make people a bit down. Good luck op.