How would you broach this

[Saladcrab]

Been with my partner a year everything is perfect he’s honestly so kind and caring we have the most amazing sex but it’s never often enough. When I first met him it happened almost everytime I saw him. We’ve had sex 3 times since the 23rd of may I see him like 4 days a week he’s happy for blow Jobs and uses my vibrator on me but it’s not the same I always have to start it all off sometimes during a blow Job I will stop and ask to go on top but he just says to carry on and he will finish me off. I just really want sex I’m 27 if that makes a difference. I want to bring it up with him but I don’t want to offend him I know he’s extra busy with work etc but I feel like it’s better to mention it now than further down the line. When we do have sex it’s so amazing and hot he also always comments on how good the sex is. It’s making me feel unwanted in that area as he never makes the move first

I’m also quite insistent with the blow jobs but I will stop that I just seem to really enjoy giving them

You sound on the verge of being a sex pest.

You have really mismatched libidos.

When I say persistent I will go down on him most nights I see him if he says not tonight I stop

Does he initiate at all?

Yes he has a few times in the last year and will always offer to use my toys on me which I love but sometimes I want the connection from sex

A few times? He's not exactly Casanova tho, is he?

I just think your libidos are quite different. You've only been together a short time - this is still the honeymoon period and this would normally be the peak of your sex life together, the early days, when you can't keep your hands off each other.

I politely messaged him this morning to get it off my chest he said he would try harder and make an effort and we agreed to speak properly later once work is over

@Saladcrab

I politely messaged him this morning to get it off my chest he said he would try harder and make an effort and we agreed to speak properly later once work is over

I bet he did...

probably feels he's struck gold finding someone as giving as you my lovely...

just make sure you're needs are being met too 🌸

Oh yes I will meets all my other needs amazingly I mentioned that I needed to pay for some physio as nhs was a 20 month waiting list he instantly offered to help me pay half comes over on his days off etc to drive me to work if it’s raining etc @QueenBee52

Wow, just what every girl wants, her bloke to "make an effort" to have sex with her.

@Saladcrab

Thanks he’s the most kind and generous man so this really baffles me that he’s like this I am sex obsessed and told him from day one a few weeks ago he apologised for the lack of sex said he’s been supper tired with work etc but since then I’ve had not much each time the sex has always been instigated by me

He’s just not into sex as much as you are, sorry.

Unless he’s hiding some fetish that you get into I believe it won’t get better. It’ll get less frequent. He doesn’t like fucking. If you do, then this relationship is going nowhere if sex is important to you.
Sorry, that sounds harsh but it’s not to be. Please don’t waste your time with someone who isn’t able to give you what you need.

We spoke last night he admitted he had been getting lazy these last couple of months spoke about his work stress he said but that’s no excuse for me not making an effort. His last relationship involved no sex as she never wanted it and he spent a lot of time being batted away. he was with her on and off for 4 years. He’s promised to make more of an effort so fingers crossed

How are you @Saladcrab 🌸

I’m good thanks @QueenBee52 he’s instigated sex when I saw him the second time I fell asleep so he didn’t have a chance though all things are going well

@Saladcrab

I’m good thanks *@QueenBee52* he’s instigated sex when I saw him the second time I fell asleep so he didn’t have a chance though all things are going well

AAww that's good @Saladcrab .. all positive