What are the chances?

[RespectfulOrNot]

Realistically?

I'm in my late 40s. I've never been in a real or loving relationship. I've always had one foot out of the door and realised recently that I've never had anything other than fwbs or 'situationships'. I've never wanted anything more either.

I suppose I'm the archetypal commitmentphobe.

I'm in a similar set up now but it looks more like a relationship than anything else ever had and it's made me think that maybe actually I'm finally ready for something real. I would really like to allow myself to fall in love and be loved but I just don't know if it's even possible now!

Relax ... just go with the flow
Don't put a label on anything and just enjoy spending time together!
Could have wrote that myself ... annoying isn't it 😩

Realistically - every chance!

I've always been the same,to the point I've been married to my DH for that last four years - and we've never lived together. We still live 60 miles apart!! So I totally get it.

However, I'm 49 now, he's 43 (been together 6.5 years) - we have just bought an apartment together (I'm still keeping hold of my house too - I didn't say I was fully cured ha!!)

It comes to us all if we let it.

I probably should have clarified - I don't think a real relationship is on the cards with him.

Oh...well in that case it sounds like you're ready to change but you've chosen a fellow commitmentphobe. It is said that where you find one you find two.

That was definitely us for the first few years. I'd say sit back and let it unfold, unless hes unavailable or something.

No, he's not unavailable. We'll, not in the sense that he's married or attached! I suspect he's emotionally unavailable though.

I just don't know how to be any differently. I once dated someone who would drop gifts and treats (nothing expensive) outside my door when he knew I was working at home etc and it made me very anxious and pushed me away.

I told him he'd be perfect for someone but I just found it too much.

Get yourself out there op:)