Kick to one side or just wait it out

[SouthAfricanQueen]

Started talking to a guy after matching on tinder, he messaged me twice after I somehow missed his first initial message. Proceeded to continue talking off tinder, when I asked what he is looking for he said after being pretty much alone after a year because of covid he is Judy looking to be happy again by seeing friends and family etc fine.. talked about meeting up but he has most weekends booked till the end of July and I'm a single mum. Sometimes he'll go days without contacting me and I don't go out of my way to contact him either as I've made it clear it prefer just to meet up. He will however get back in touch after a day or so but usually just to say he is feeling horny.. I challenged him on this he has said he isn't like that but can be overly sexual when attracted to someone and that when meeting in person people realise he is a decent guy.

So should I wait it out actually meet him and then judge or kick him to one side? Also not talking to anyone else as I just cannot be bothered to sign back up to tinder 😂😂

Nah he doesn’t sound all that great OP.

He’s not bothering to fit you in until the end of July? Even for a quick drink or a coffee or a walk?

No one is that busy, come on. Then he pops by to try and get some texting going? He’s just after some smutty messages to get himself off to.

Sorry to be the barer of bad news. He’s a dick.

Block, move on. Don’t ignore the red flag!

I wouldn’t continue talking to him. Too many red flags too early on. Especially if you want something more.

He's just after one thing, he's not clear in what he's looking for and contacts you when he's feeling horny, anyone that's serious about wanting to date and get to know you will set up a date with you.
He's your only option but that doesn't mean it's a good one, leave it a while or sign up to a different dating app.

No!!!

He's just messaging you when he's bored. No doubt chatting to lots of women.

He only wants casual sex. If that's what you want too go for it.

He’s not that bothered. The only reason he shows an interest is because he wants a shag. If you’re cool with that then fine, but otherwise sack him off.

Definitely not looking for something causal. As far as I'm concerned I have a very handy vibrator that gives me all the pleasure and less of the agro that just having something causal may bring. But also disheartened by the men out there currently

He's not that bothered. :)

My ex was very sexually “forward” when we first met and I wish I had run the opposite way then. He turned into a huge sex pest and after a while I felt he only wanted to be with for sex. He even admitted to being “highly sexually attracted “ to me. Should’ve seen that as a massive red flag from the get go and kicked him to the curb. Men that are that way usually only want to have sex, not always but usually.

He keeps trying to get sexual when you've already told him you're not into that. I'd ditch, as he's not accepting a no.

I challenged him on this he has said he isn't like that but can be overly sexual when attracted to someone and that when meeting in person people realise he is a decent guy.

Yeah right . Pushy wankers online are pushy wankers in person.

Nahh this one isn't a genuine prospect. You're wanting something serious and the sporadic sexual messages are not the actions of a man looking for same. Him continuing to send these after you've flagged it with him underlines that, and shows he isn't respectful. The guff about being decent in real life is a moot point as he can't make time for you. If he was keen, he would have time for something over the next 5 weekends, even if only brief.

Throw him back OP. If someone is keen to meet they will find a way. I don't believe he can't spare an hour or two between now and the end of July to meet for a coffee or a quick walk. Rubbish.

He's playing you. Ditch

Ditch!
When I was on Tinder if a guy tried to turn things sexual before we'd even met or had sex I'd block straight away.