So tempted to message him. Was I too picky?

[AnnieCurls]

Long term single, sad, struggling.

Last August I matched with a guy on Bumble. He was funny, seemed kind and genuine, and came from the same cultural background as me, which was ideal. We went on a few in person dates and did some virtual ones during lockdown.

Just as lockdown was easing, he stopped messaging. I thought I was making things up at first but by the last week, he had only messaged once. I messaged and said thanks for the company, hope you meet someone but this seems to have run the course and blocked him.

I've been fine but now I'm regretting it. For the first time in my life I thought I was getting somewhere. I really did. I met my colleagues for a while this week for a catch up and someone said 'Still single, Annie?'.

I was right to end things, wasn't it?

I was right to end things wasn’t I?

It sounds like he had more or less stopped communicating with you, so yes.

I’m sorry op I think he already ended it. I’d not spend time thinking more about this, 💐

It's really shit.

He will stay blocked.

Thanks.

I think you were too quick to block. You should have given him a chance to answer first x

Out of interest why did you block him? It seems a harsh way to end things given you’d otherwise enjoyed getting to know him a bit.
I would move on in a positive way and not focus on it but on the whole i‘D never block anyone unless they were disrespectful or something ? And certainly if he’d wanted to ask why you ended it he wouldn’t have had the chance

What's to regret? He wasn"t keen.
Trust your gut. Xx

Oh god no leave it! It was almost a year ago. It will look odd sorry

You can always unblock but not contact. So basically leave the door open for him if he suddenly decides you were the one who got away!

@PumpkinKlNG

Oh god no leave it! It was almost a year ago. It will look odd sorry

There's this point.... but... how much do you care if you look crazy? I would be tempted to throw caution to the wind and message anyway, blame the pandemic for acting hasty.. or something. If he comes back to you, could be the start of something.

If not, you might look crazy, but does it really matter?!

I think sometimes people act a bit desperate and egg the op on when they really shouldn’t, he stopped messaging her are people reading that bit? Don’t message him and definitely don’t play games like unblocking him and not messaging etc hoping he will message you.

Remember that many men on OLD sites are married and are messaging only to pass the time and feed their egos, or hoping for wank fodder...

Personally I think the real problem is friends who say crap like ' still single?'

Ugh.

Just answer with an enthusiastic' Yes!' and then talk about what you've watched on Netflix

As you noticed the contact tapering off to almost nothing then I think your original summary have been right and things had run their course from his end.

It's possible he had met someone else as it doesn't sound like you had established exclusivity. I would probably keep looking rather than try and revisit this. I once messaged someone off OLD where it had petered out first time and he just went quiet again after a bit of chat.

That said, it has been a very strange year for meeting people so if you really regret it then I suppose there would be no massive harm or loss of face in messaging as long as you keep your expectations very low indeed and can take on the chin a nil/ negative response.

I have to say I probably wouldn't get back involved with a man who had blocked me though. I know it feels a good idea to clear the decks if someone isn't keen but it might have come across a bit drastic.

People on OLD do quite often reappear unexpectedly on WhatsApp since investment is low and circumstances change so you never know. Just keep your hopes in check if you do message.

I just wanted to send you a hug. I'm "still single" too, don't let those comments make you second guess the decisions you made in how you wanted to be communicated to. He had stopped messaging you, you took ownership and ended it. Your colleagues comment was probably flippant but at the same time not nice.

@beeloubee

I think you were too quick to block. You should have given him a chance to answer first x

What becayse a week isn’t long enough? Seriously?