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Asking for advice for a friend

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Dorisdaydream2 · 27/06/2021 16:36

As the title sats I really need advice for a friend today.

Her works has unraveled this weekend. Her long term partner has been cheating for about a year. She has evidence. He lives in her property and pays her rent. They do not have a written agreement. She needs him to leave now. Does anyone know the legalities behind this? He has the money for a hotel as he’s been leaching off her for years and has saved a lot of money.

TIA

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DinosaurDiana · 27/06/2021 16:39

Does he have evidence that he paid her rent, like a direct debit on a bank statement ?

ChargingBuck · 27/06/2021 16:48

Not sure if it matters if he has evidence of payment or not, because as OP is also resident, his status (if any) would be that of lodger, not tenant.

Having no written agreement is in her favour. She can tell him to get to fuck, & if he doesn't leave with 24 hours, she will contact the police because she has an unwanted man in her house refusing to leave.

Dorisdaydream2 · 27/06/2021 16:52

She’s being amazing, but wants to throw him out today. I know he’s a nasty fuck so am worried for her and want to make sure he doesn’t get his claws into her properly.

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DinosaurDiana · 27/06/2021 16:53

If he gets nasty she should phone the police.
I would think she could ring the non-emergency number for advice about getting him out.

ChargingBuck · 27/06/2021 17:32

@Dorisdaydream2

She’s being amazing, but wants to throw him out today. I know he’s a nasty fuck so am worried for her and want to make sure he doesn’t get his claws into her properly.
Can you & maybe some other pals/partners be around for when she tells him she's finished with him & he needs to leave?
Dorisdaydream2 · 27/06/2021 17:46

Thank you, she has told him it’s o we and he’s refusing to leave. Probably because it saves him so much money to live there. I think we will get legal advice tomorrow.

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DogsSausages · 27/06/2021 17:48

If he is just a lodger cant she just call the police, have him removed, change the locks and fit a security camera in case he starts acting up.

R0SEMARY · 27/06/2021 18:34

So he pays her some money but they have no written agreement ? I’m that case she can say it’s towards the food and utility bills not rent.

He has no right to stay and she can call the police. Is she scared of him? Has he threatened her ? If so, She needs to tell the police this.

If he is a lodger and has a written agreement then yes he does have some rights, depending on where she lives .

Dorisdaydream2 · 27/06/2021 20:09

Thank you for all your advice. She says she doesn’t feel unsafe, he hasn’t threatened her. I really don’t trust him though. She’s very tough and less likely to feel threatened than say I would.

There is no written agreement, he pays a small amount that she keeps a record of. This goes towards bills.

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