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Chatting on dating apps.

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Ilovegreentomatoes · 27/06/2021 15:52

So just a general question about chatting on the apps.Been talking to a guy I like on an app from thursday last week. He liked me and so I matched with him and he opens the conversation all good.
When the last conversation ended friday it was with me having the final say. Not heard from him since and I have not messaged as I do believe if a man likes you he will show the initiative. I know it sounds childish but whenever I've chased it just reafirms the fact they just aren't that into me.
I know I could start the conversation again but for once it would be nice for someone to chase me for a change.We haven't swapped numbers yet and he's not asked.
Am I right in thinking if a man likes you he will message asap .I normally don't care but he's the first guy on the apps I've liked in ages.Btw since our last chat he's been on the app to change his profile pic so he's had time for that!

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PumpkinKlNG · 27/06/2021 18:43

I’m with you op, if you made the last comment then I would leave it. This is MN though so you will get responses from everyone telling you to message him again and “he’s probably to scared/shy” “it’s the 21st century” blah blah etc but ime a man will let you know if he is interested! Don’t double message!

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Ilovegreentomatoes · 27/06/2021 19:19

Thanks for replying. Agree 100% and am not going to message but it is disappointing when you like them!

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FlatteredFool · 27/06/2021 19:36

Definitely don't message. He's not messaged since Friday so he's either been busy with other dates, busy messaging others dick pics that have given him their number, or he's just not that into you. Possibly all 3. Get chatting to others on the dating app.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 27/06/2021 19:40

What Flattered said. I'm not a shrinking violet by any means, but as an Old Bird, I will say that in situations where I've 'chased', even when there has been a resulting relationship, this has somehow set the tone of things to come. In all cases I have been expected to make more effort. Not the case with the current Mr Sponge, but it took me a while to take the fact on board.

seensome · 27/06/2021 19:44

Just delete him, if he's changed his picture then he's been on there looking and isn't interested quite honestly. I have a brutal approach if they dont message me within 24 hours I delete them.
If they are that interested they will ask for my number or a date quickly.

CautiousBlonde · 27/06/2021 19:47

Agree with seensome above.

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Ilovegreentomatoes · 27/06/2021 20:05

Yeah think I'll have to delete.Shame but onwards and upwards.

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charlotteself · 27/06/2021 20:38

I dont think you need to delete, but I do think you need to accept he's probably not keen

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Ilovegreentomatoes · 27/06/2021 20:57

Well if he's not really keen not a lot of point. I think I'll wait till tomorrow and if not heard I will delete.But even if he replies now not really a lot of point imo.

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Guavafish · 27/06/2021 20:59

I personally won’t talk too much on apps. It’s better to meet in person so you don’t waste your time.

If you meet and you don’t fancy each other you’ve waste time talking for weeks.

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