Hiding phone notifications?

[Anon73745]

Hi all,

I’ve never posted anything like this before but I feel I have nowhere else to turn.

OH and I were chatting as normal last night and then a Snapchat notification sound came from his phone, his response to it was ‘oh for f sake’, I asked him if he had snapchat now, he said it was just apple news and hid his phone so he could ‘check’ and show me it was the news. I said that it sounded like snapchat, his phone sounded again with the snapchat tone and again he said ‘oh for f sake’. I asked him why he’s hiding that he’s got snapchat and he flipped and asked me why I don’t trust him and that it was just the news

He held me close and asked me not to mention it anymore, I asked again if it was snapchat to which he said that if I’m gonna be like that then go home? I went home and he sent me a screenshot of the apps on his phone to prove he doesn’t have SC.

He now says he’s sorry and that he should’ve acted differently.

My heart aches, I’m not sure how to react to this as we’ve had similar issues before. We have 2 kids and are getting married soon.

Any advice is more than welcome as I’m just a confused mess at the moment.

Thank you.

Seriously OP, please learn from my experience. The alarm bells ring. It’s easy to not listen to them or convince yourself that it is you at fault or it is something you need to get over.

It really isn’t you.

His response was defensive and odd. You have a gut feeling he isn’t telling you the whole truth. That’s enough to postpone your wedding. Awful though it is, imagine having these feelings and these things happening when you are married? Marriage doesn’t mean you will suddenly be able to work through the issues or that his / your behaviour will change. Far from it.

Write down a list of things that have happened that have caused alarm bells to ring. Look at it. Really look at it. Are you willing to endure this for the rest of your life?

for you.

Well he's lying, isn't he!

Set up a fake Snapchat account not linked to your name in any way and find him on there for your own peace of mind, so you know for certain. Then bin him off!

You are setting yourself up for a marriage of misery and heartbreak. You know this but seem to want to blindly wander into it nonetheless.
Your choice.

Don't marry him. Keep your eyes and ears open.

Just as an aside... the sky news and the Snapchat app both make the same notification sound on my phone 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sounds like there is more going on here though and his reaction and keeping his phone so close are a red flag.

Why do you still want to marry him when he’s been messaging his ex and you can’t trust him? Ltb

Ah op he has snap chat and when he took a photo of his apps to show you he just deleted it off his screen . I have a friend I work with who cheats on her partner all the time through snap chat. Apparently it's the app everyone used to do it as what you send gets deleted as soon as it's read . She's messaging and met up with loads of men even men who are about to get married ! He has snap chat 100 percent op . And the way he was acting and has been he is doing something he shouldn't be . I would not marry him 100 percent .

If he has an iPhone the app history will show which apps have been downloaded and when.

Hiding the phone is suspicious. If he was telling the truth why would he hide a news app?

Don’t marry him. Please listen to all of us saying this. It won’t improve.

He sounds to me like an accomplished liar.

You clearly have trust issues...I would not get married until you have cleared these issues totally. Marriage will just make it all the more worse.

OP said ' I wasn't accusing him of anything, I was only asking' and then describes her DP acting in a defensive manner.

People who have nothing to hide do not act defensively when they are asked questions.

Been there, done that. Absolutely defensive reaction, hiding stuff from you. Waited until you were home to try prove it was innocent. Clearly he’s hiding something and if you don’t stand up for yourself now then your relationship will continue in that trend. Get out whilst you can.

Hmm..

Id find a way onto his phone

Then go onto app store to see if snapchat has been downloaded? Even if its deleted, it'll have a different symbol that just indicates to redownload it..

xx