I risk sounding like a teenage girl here but please bear with me !
Was married for twenty years. By the end I was repulsed by my sexually coercive, bone lazy, moody and difficult exh.
I couldn't stomach the thought of sex with him as I simply wasn't sexually attracted to him anymore .
The moods and the sulks when I would t give onto sex were crushing , he had an affair and jogged on .
Privately I was delighted but of course the fall out for the kids was massive and indeed our whole lives as we knew it to be .
Fast forward two years , I'm in a relationship with a man that I see most weekends . I am very attracted to him and we enjoy a robust sexual life apart from everything else .it's like I'm making up for years of a dead libido and tension .
We are together a year and for thefirst 6-7 months would always kiss passionately . He is a generous and thoughtful lover so no worries there .
However I e noticed that he doesn't really initiate anymore . I'm disappointed and wondered why. He couldnt explain but agrees he needed to make more of an effort . Is this just natural progression where the honeymoon phase is coming to an end or in your experience has something changed ? His behaviour hasn't changed nor has his libido . He is hugely tactile and affectionate .. it's just the French kissing is disappearing and I really
Miss it ! My exh and I never kissed btw.no oral hygiene problems with me ( in case that may have been a thought)
I probably Come
Across as being sexually immature and maybe I am but I've finally found true sexual and intimate gratification and am slow to see what's in front of me at times especially after my exh having an affair under my nose . Thanks for reading .