Is this stalking?

[Fedup642]

I broke up with my (male) partner of a decade 2 months ago... since then he's sent daily texts and emails to me, or my friends and family, to tell them he's changed and that I should take him back. There's no threats and he's not turned up at my house. He's been told to stop but it makes no difference. Is the only option left to go to the police? It is upsetting me, which he's been told, but he carries on. He's blocked on everything, but just finds other ways, like letters. Any advice? Will he just burn himself out and stop on his own?

Yes it’s stalking / harassment (not sure of the defining difference), speak to the police!

Yes. Sorry OP.

So sorry but yes, you need to speak to the police for advice.

It's harassment. I think after two months of I would contact the police so they can warn him off.

*two months of it

Yes, it’s stalking and I would speak to the police for advice about it. I’m sorry you’re going through that.

It's harassment, if he is continuing to attempt to contact you, even via 3rd parties you need to report him. It is still deemed domestic abuse as you were in a relationship.

Yes.
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Hi male pov here, yes it's stalking or harassment by another name,!! And if proof to him to stop by you and other people are not engaging with him regularly this to be supplied to police and can be stopped,

Phew! How lucky we are that a man can swing by to say exactly what every pp has said and its true cos now a man has said it!

Blessed are we.

Thank you

Yes he's crossed the line, massively. It's harassment at this point.

Advice here

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020 3866 4107 [email protected]

National stalking Helpline Suzy Lamplugh Trust
0808 802 0300

It’s harrassment

Thanks everyone... that's unanimous then. Which I kind of knew, but just can't believe it of him really. Thank you for the links too... they're really helpful.

Do I detect a hint of sarcasm @RogueMNerHidesUnderBigHat!! 🙄

To be fair @Ardvark111 it did make me cringe a bit too!

I know you didn't mean it to but it came across a little bit like mansplaining stalking as you announced you were a man then echoed all the same advice given. Instead of just echoing it / reiterating it like other people.

Not saying that to have a go, just to explain why it jarred a bit!

Yes it is, hope information provided via links from others on this thread can help bring an end to this.

Meant to say OP, the Suzy Lamplugh Trust is an amazing organisation worth getting in touch with for advice on what to do next.

Well @youvegottenminuteslynn. Whilst i Irespect your polite response ( unlike my sarky critic,!! I only echoed other posters replys and some quoted same word * harassment AFTER my comment,!!! Poster herself said unanimous replys. So was just not me...

@Ardvark111

Well *@youvegottenminuteslynn. Whilst i Irespect your polite response ( unlike my sarky critic,!! I only echoed other posters replys and some quoted same word harassment AFTER my comment,!!! Poster herself said unanimous replys. So was just not me...

Well yes, everyone said the same thing - that was my point, that it therefore felt a bit mansplainy to say "Hi male pov here" before saying what everyone else said - as being a man seems like an irrelevant detail on this particular thread. Hope that made more sense!

@Ardvark111

Hi male pov here, yes it's stalking or harassment by another name,!! And if proof to him to stop by you and other people are not engaging with him regularly this to be supplied to police and can be stopped,

Well, now a man has said it we can all believe it!!! Gosh thank you for helping us poor women out

If you haven't already I'd send him one message saying that you do not want any further contact and that you will contact the police next time he contacts you. Then if he contacts you again do just that. He is unlikely to stop of his own accord.

@Ardvark111 it was the pointing out you were a man as if a man's view was needed to confirm what everyone else had already said that grated a bit. Not the repeating what everyone else had already said.

Ardvark111

Your penis really isn't relevant to your opinion is it though? Please go wave it elsewhere because we don't care what genitals you have or rate your opinion based on them.