Time to move on

[Cherrytree71]

My partner and I are in our late 40s/mid 50s and have been in a long distance relationship for nearly 3 years. Both divorced.
He regularly tells me he loves me, but today said 'he could fall in love with me.'

I'm hurt by that comment and feel that if he doesn't feel it nearly 3 years down the line he never will. Am I wasting my time?

It is hard to comment without a little more context of your long distance relationship, e.g. how long distance, how often can you meet up etc. Also how did you hope it would have moved forward by now?

We usually try to see each other every weekend, fortnightly at most. Both of us have commitments where we are and although we'd like to be together permanently it doesn't seem to be happening.

To further add to this, we had a chat about it. Without actually coming out with it, he made reference to me being boring and not wanting to be stuck in another boring relationship (he was married for over 20 years.)
He also wants to try things like threesomes, swinging etc and potentially watch me with another partner.

Like hell am I interested in anything like that. Something tells me he confuses porn with real life so I’m going to pick up my self respect and leave with my dignity whilst I still have it.

Make sure you slam the door on the way out ! @Cherrytree71
Cheeky shit

I sure will! Makes me cringe that this man is in his mid 50s!
Hopeful that there are actually decent men out there who aren’t ruled by porn!

Mid 50's ? Thank god I've deleted my OLD profile .. I'd probably end up with him next ... then he'd really know what boring was ... 🤣
Hopefully there are men out there worth meeting , getting to know
My optimism is terminal now though ..

Ugh off he fucks then!

Sorry OP I know it must be really upsetting. But also thank god you found out now rather than waste another day on this wrongen.