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Do you think I'm being childish?

12 replies

breadandfine · 26/06/2021 11:14

We split up 7 months ago because things were just too difficult.
I still have feelings and it's obvious we both still fancy each other
We still speak daily but I've had to unfollow him on Facebook (so I don't see his posts) and Snapchat.
I don't want to see pictures of him looking good or wondering who he is out with.
Texting him feels ok because it's just someone behind a phone but seeing posts etc and pictures of him stops me getting over him.

Does this make any sense?
Am I being childish?
He has asked why I've stopped communicating on Snapchat and I just ignored the question.

Seeing him looking good on there is just too much.

OP posts:
wavecatcher · 26/06/2021 11:23

You will never move on and get over him if you are being pulled back with so much contact. You need to stop, I'm guessing you broke up for a reason?

riotlady · 26/06/2021 11:39

You need to stop speaking so you can move on

Hersetta427 · 26/06/2021 11:43

Move on - stop communicating full stop.

5475878237NC · 26/06/2021 11:44

Assuming you know that you have no future, given the ongoing feelings you have the only forward is to cut all contact together. You can't be friends with an ex you still have feelings for. You'll be stuck in this rut

Tee20x · 26/06/2021 11:59

I get where you're coming from but what is the point of still talking to him if you feel the need to do these things? If the relationship is done stop communicating.

HadaVerde · 26/06/2021 12:31

What is the point of the continued daily contact?

Hsurbbrb · 26/06/2021 12:59

Why did you break up?

LawnFever · 26/06/2021 13:01

Why are you still in touch with him at all? Do you want to get back together or think this is possible?

If not you should stop contact and move on, you’ve nothing to gain from staying in touch with him, doesn’t sound like you can actually be just friends if you still have feelings for him.

category12 · 26/06/2021 13:07

Obviously the level of contact isn't right for you. I think it's pretty odd you're in touch daily - how is that giving you any time or space to move on?

It's not childish to find it difficult to get over a failed relationship and it doesn't work for most people to "stay friends" afterwards. Far more unusual to keep daily contact - I don't even speak that much to my best mate.

I would say "actually, the level of contact we have is too much for me right now, so I'm going to take a break from it. Maybe we can resume a friendship in a few months time if you still want to. I'd appreciate it if you respect my decision in the meantime".

breadandfine · 26/06/2021 14:34

Basically he had a wandering eye.
Messed me around.
Told me he didn't want serious
We kept in touch every day but every time it's the weekend it's torture.
Wondering who he is out with

OP posts:
billy1966 · 26/06/2021 14:56

He's an absolute idiot made out of you.
He's a player.
Have some self respect.
Have some dignity.
Block his ass and move on.
Flowers

category12 · 26/06/2021 15:53

Well, take control and stop the torture - you're doing it to yourself - he's not making you watch him go out with other women and have a good time without you.

Stop all contact and move on with your life. You have complete control over this.

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