The Ick….can you ever get over it?

[Blankspace4]

DH and I been married 12 years.

I have the serious ick at the moment.

His dental hygiene is vile and hasn’t been to the dentist in years. One of his teeth is literally black.
He never cuts his toenails and they are just totally vile, fungal and overgrown
We use separate bathrooms but I’ve noticed he’s not changed his bath towel in 2 months
Drinks too much and eats crap. No regard for health and will only take a vitamin tablet if I nag him.

Putting it all out there on the page is quite upsetting really.

Is there any way back?? How do I address these things?

I should count myself lucky, he’s not violent, or abusive

I'm sure @Blankspace4, you realise that this is a very low bar...

Of course you want to help him, but at the end of the day he is an adult, and you are not his nanny.

It may be that, if you want to lead a long, active, satisfying and enjoyable life, he is not the right partner for you. Better to be single than go through life with an albatross around your neck.

I think there's a huge difference to getting the ick with someone when there's no good reason. Sometimes it just happens. I had it with my ex and he was lovely, kind and had great hygiene, I just didn't fancy him.

I don't think you've got the 'ick' I think he sounds like a disgusting man who's not looking after himself and I can't for one moment think you'd want him to be anywhere near you.

Can you truly see a scenario in your future where your DH makes his own dental appointments, regularly puts anti-fungal nail cream on his own toenails, puts rubbish in the bin (as opposed to the floor), and changes his towels without being reminded?

Truly, can you?