Should I send a message to ex’s (who doesn’t see children due to abuse) family a warning them.

[Letdown16]

So ex hasn’t had contact for almost 2 years and currently in the family court. He gets indirect via letters.

I have been still letting kids speak to there other gran and auntie in a different country as didn’t think it right to stop them.

I’ve had a few problems with them before as they obviously side with ex. I’ve just hung up the video call which was a) being recorded by them I presume to send to him and b) they were saying over and over what can we buy you, name it and we will keep sending you things. This has been brought up in court and ex has been told to not send gifts as he sends the biggest things he can find. Won’t send letters but will send gifts.
Before this they never sent anything and if they did just small things. I’ve had the most ridiculous sized gifts now form them ( not from them form my ex but he now putting in there name).

I don’t want to stop them calling I really don’t but I don’t want this manipulating continuing…..what shall I do, send them a msg to say I won’t call if they continue? It’s so unfair On the kids.

No I know what they doing isn’t right but it’s so bloody unfair for my daughter to have to loose another contact. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

I don’t think contact in this context is of benefit to your children. Why are you facilitating it? You are right to end the call when they start talking shit about the DC’s dad.

I was facilitating it because Cafcass said it was a good idea to continue. They have got worse and now are behaving very odd since he was ordered indirect only.

I will definitely stop with the sister but unsure whether to with her gran as she has not really done anything wrong and my daughter enjoys talking to her.

Email the grandmother and state very clearly why you can’t have contact with the aunt anymore. 1) recording calls. 2) Constantly referring to the father 3) Obvious, divisive language “You look just like your father”, fishing for personal info about living situation, etc… 4) Repeatedly ignoring boundaries imposed by the court.
State clearly that as your children are upset and unsettled after these calls, you the sister has not changed her behaviour despite repeated requests, you will not allow contact to continue with her as it is not in the kids’ best interests.

I find it so hard to understand why you would sacrifice your contact with your granddaughter/niece for the sake of saying a few comments. Is it really worth it. I’ve had two msgs now begging me not to take away there only granddaughter it’s the only one they have, I have not replied.