Struggling with break up no contact struggling with

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Spilt up and said I didn't want any contact. I didn't want to break up he just wouldn't give me the time I deserved my heart is breaking so much.
No contact started to work and was feeling better. Then for last 4 days he's found excuses to contact me. We work together so I can't block him.

No I'm feeling back at square one and just want to give in a text him.

I want him to realise what he's lost but I'm not strong enough again

It's difficult. Three weeks ago almost I ended a relationship because he was treating me badly and lying. The problem I had was I loved him and there was a time he felt like a soulmate. We both said we'd never felt so connected to another person before. We were almost addicted for a while. But then I found out he was lying. Cheating. Breadcrumbing me. Overall bad for my health and not good. So I made the painful choice to end it and block him. I was doing great too. But I've had a wobbly couple of days. I haven't unblocked him though and don't intend to contact him

I started writing emails and saving them to drafts. It's become my journal. A place I can write anything I want. But it's for my eyes only. Gets it all of my chest. I've written emails that I'll never send for him. I've written down my thoughts and feelings too. It's massively helped me. I recommend trying that. Or writing a letter on paper to him or the universe if you are a spiritual person. Which may feel nuts. But again it's good to write down how you feel and get it all out without contacting him.

Failing that okay dua lipa new rules on repeat haha.

Its so difficult and I understand how you feel. But don't do it if you are sure the realtionship can't work.

You can do this. It takes a lot of will power. What will texting him do? It won't make him have time and realise what he's lost. It'll teach him that he can treat you how he has but you'll still be there when he wants. He'll know that NC means nothing. NC was making you feel better. You've done well with sticking to it. Heartache is like grief, it's tough and we don't think rationally when our hearts are involved but remember why you made this decision. It wouldn't have been an easy decision to make.

That must be hard to have to work together. Don't share your feelings with him, work related talk only.
Ignore him looking for attention it's only short lived, he doesn't want to offer you his time and attention more consistently so stay strong not to accept his breadcrumbs

He's an Ex for a reason. And he hasn't changed!

Focus all your attention on your friends, social life etc

Ignore him at work, and YES you CAN block him from contacting you !

Block him on your mobile and all SM. Do not attend any drinks after work type social/work events.

If he tries to speak to you about anything other than work, tell him ''I'm not open to any discussion other than work related subjects.

Once you're out with your friends and filling your social calendar with fun things, he'll soon be ''that wanker/guy from work'' I dated for a while.............