I know what will be suggested voluntary work, hobbies working p/t but we are still in lockdown in regard to a lot of things and I have a pre-schooler at home with me (sahm).
I have very little extended family (only male relatives remaining with various m/h issues). My relationship with husband is not great, whilst he is great practical support, he offers very little in the way of emotional support. Married for a long time but going through peri-meno. which doesn't help and don't want to talk about it too much here - heading off to therapy soon. I have dc but they are still young. At the end of the day, I'm just plain lonely.
I have 2 or 3 friends but lucky if I see them on a weekly basis - more like every 2-3 weeks and don't find contact reliable (I do a lot of arranging).
I've just been diagnosed (with a long-standing) m/h issue which affects my trust in people and doesn't help me make friends all that easily. I do have plans to volunteer etc. once little one starts pre-school but it all feels like an up-hill struggle. I realise I need to do something to change the situation around but for me, it won't be easy.
It seems strange not to have a go to person to just pick up the phone and talk to - I no longer have that - the Samaritans I suppose are there but it feels a bit desperate. I binge on sweet foods to fill a hole but working on this to try and eat more healthily. I also get that self-love is the most important thing (need to do a lot of work on this) but also human interaction is so important. It is easy to start thinking that you are a horrible person but this isn't true - I am also a good listener and I think have been used to this effect in the past. I have an awful feeling of abandonment and when I am unable to develop friendships (and try not to come across as desperate) it all feels exacerbated. Still heading off to therapy in a month or two might clarify some of this.
Can anyone relate?