20 year wedding anniversary of first marriage

[Karcheer]

Yesterday was my 20 year wedding anniversary of my first marriage.

It was my choice to divorce although a few years later I regretted it, but he had moved on. I did too and remarried.

Every year on that date I feel a bit odd. But yesterday I felt so down and today I still feel a bit numb.

Anyone else feel odd on the dates of ex anniversaries? I know in a few days i'll be back to myself - but right now i feel very bluerghhh

Yesterday I felt so desperate to tell someone it was my anniversary, but obviously couldn't... really don't understand my emotions at this time of year at all.

I do. I feel a bit of a failure snd that I let my kids down but I was so miserable.

@CandyLeBonBon

I do. I feel a bit of a failure snd that I let my kids down but I was so miserable.

You didn't let your kids down if you were miserable, a happier mum is definitely better for them.

I thought I was miserable, but looking back I was just young and stupid... I'm definitely more miserable now and my marriage more unhappy - although I don't know if I just look back with rose tinted glasses - or if it was youth and having everything ahead of me that makes me remember it as being happy - maybe i'm just mourning the happy 27 year old me :/

Yeah I get that @Karcheer
I made my life much harder than it needed to be - I split after 12 years at 42. 52 next month and feel like I'm finally starting to make progress again, but I don't regret ending my marriage, I am just sad it wasn't what I'd hoped it be. I still remember my wedding day eith fondness though, and often talk about it with my kids so they know it wasn't all doom and gloom. Happy anniversary op x

Yep I still count the anniversaries from marriage #1. Even though I've married and divorced again since. Both husbands were cheats but I think about marriage #1 as we had kids and were so hopeful. It would have been 35 years this year.

I married my first husband young (I was 19), had our son at 21 and we became divorced at age 23.

I re-married at 25 and have been married to my second husband for 25 years.

Last year, for whatever reason, I felt sad when the day of the 30th wedding anniversary to my first husband arrived. I have no idea why it hit me so hard. I was the one who ended the marriage, for reasons that are still relevant today, and I was so blue about it all.

I only live 15 miles from my ex-husband and since we have our son and three grandchildren, I actually texted him and told him: "
"Wow! Can you believe that 30 years ago we got married? I still have a few photos of the wedding and it's like you haven't aged a day in all those years!"
His reply: "Really? That was a long time ago. Wait! We had a wedding?"

I got really pissed off, I was 19 and super slim and I looked amazing! Bastard.

31 years passed this year and I didn't think of it until now.

@elp30

I married my first husband young (I was 19), had our son at 21 and we became divorced at age 23.

I re-married at 25 and have been married to my second husband for 25 years.

Last year, for whatever reason, I felt sad when the day of the 30th wedding anniversary to my first husband arrived. I have no idea why it hit me so hard. I was the one who ended the marriage, for reasons that are still relevant today, and I was so blue about it all.

I only live 15 miles from my ex-husband and since we have our son and three grandchildren, I actually texted him and told him: "
"Wow! Can you believe that 30 years ago we got married? I still have a few photos of the wedding and it's like you haven't aged a day in all those years!"
His reply: "Really? That was a long time ago. Wait! We had a wedding?"

I got really pissed off, I was 19 and super slim and I looked amazing! Bastard.

31 years passed this year and I didn't think of it until now.

He sounds like a twat!