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WhatsApp - does someone know if you block them?

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moniquesue · 23/06/2021 20:35

My ex (based abroad) keeps messaging me on WhatsApp. some of the messages are quite abusive. He has no other way of contacting me.
I'd like to block him, but would he know if I block him? Would WhatsApp alert him to the fact if I block his number?
Or would the messages still show as sent as normal from his end?
How does blocking work?
Never blocked anyone before and feel rude about blocking him but it's a last resort, just to get him off my back!

OP posts:
LoopTheLoops · 24/06/2021 12:24

I just think it’s hard to move on with the op still having to communicate with her ex, she needs to be able to move on with her life and not have to keep having an abusive ex messaging her. She’s got evidence from the previous messages. If he’s not a threat then there is really no need to keep “record” of the messages because he’s extremely unlikely to be able to do anything given he is in a completely different country, no police officer would tell you you have to keep communicating with an abusive ex, absolutely no way would they tell her to keep in contact with him so she has “proof” and op needs to be able to move on with her life

ihtwsf · 24/06/2021 12:29

Either block or mute and don't even hesitate to do this.
Get your family to do the same too.
I blocked my ex on everything and once I'd done that it was an amazing feeling. He couldn't get to me anymore.
He did however, start transferring sums of money to my bank account with little comments in the "Purpose" section on online banking but I got my bank to put a stop on the payments too.

LoopTheLoops · 24/06/2021 12:54

ihtwsf can I ask how you did that? My ex does the same transfers money into my account with messages, I don’t want to close my whole account down but posted on here asking if there was a way to block an account from sending you money and was told it was not possible for an account to be blocked?

Gilda152 · 24/06/2021 13:44

I didnt say keep in contact with him LooptheLoops. I said mute the conversation and let him continue to build up evidence against himself if that's what he wants to do - nowhere did I say respond, in fact I said the exact opposite.

So she's not in contact with him at all as she's not responding and in fact holds all the power.

In terms of the bank account can you not just return the payment?

ihtwsf · 24/06/2021 14:52

@LoopTheLoops
I live in another country so the rules might be different. I went into the branch and spoke to the manager and asked him if it was possible to put a stop on payments coming in from ex's account and he said it was, typed some stuff in his computer and it was done.

I returned the payments at first but then it got really annoying.
Contact someone at your bank and see if they can help.

LoopTheLoops · 24/06/2021 14:59

I see thanks ihtwsf I will give them a call later, I return it but I’ve blocked him on everything and it feels like one last way to get to me.

ihtwsf · 24/06/2021 18:03

Same in my ex's case. Last way to get to me. Messages such as "I'm so sorry for my awful behaviour. Please treat yourself to something"
"I miss the pets. Buy them a Christmas present from me please".
Shit like that....

LoopTheLoops · 24/06/2021 18:20

ihtwsf I get messages like “call me” he’s blocked on everything so it’s really annoying and the only way he can contact me now, I called the bank but unfortunately they can’t block account from sending money.

ihtwsf · 24/06/2021 18:48

That's a pain that they can't block it.
In that case, just send the money back every single time with no comment added. He'll get bored at some point and give up.

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