Am I Wrong?

[Goblin86]

My relationship has been on the rocks for awhile. We have been separated for almost 3 weeks. Honestly I think it was me I just struggle to love or feel any emotion I split because it was unfair on both of us. I wanted to split mant times he just wouldn't let it happen. I know he isn't over us but I well and truly am. He's keen to keep trying to make me happy. I don't want another relationship, I don't want to answer to anyone else. If I could be spared judgement all I want is a booty call (not from him). I know if I did this and he knew he would consider it cheating as he's not over us. I just needed a rant to be honest

Are you still living together? Block his number

No he is moving pilar to post at the moment has no where permanent to go. And we have a 8 year old together otherwise I would block his number

You need to end it properly.

Then who you shag isn't his business.

Separate officially. Sort out child care arrangements. Then you can have your FWB over - do you have someone in mind?

OK. You seem perfectly reasonable to me. What he wants or needs isn't your concern. He can think whatever he likes about what you do now, it's not his business.

I'd hold off on the 'booty call' if you can, until you're more stable emotionally. Break ups are hard, even when you want them. But I well remember, a fortnight after I split with the h, thinking I'd just walk down the hill to the main road and shag the next man who came along.

I have officially ended it with him, he just likes to be on repeat how he doesn't understand why its over. And I don't have anyone in mind, but I'd like to think I can without it being held over me by someone who can't let go

I have officially ended it with him

Then do what you like. It's only your decision to care what he thinks. It takes one person to end a relationship. You don't require his consent for that.

You say you struggle to feel any emotion or love and just want a booty call. Is your MH ok OP, it just sounds a little worrying but maybe I've misunderstood and am taking it the wrong way (I'm just hearing no emotions and potential risky behaviour).

I think in the relationship he has made me cry more times than laugh or smile. I guess now I just feel nothing at all, but that's towards everyone not just him. I feel like I'm getting bitter or cold hearted. Only person I love and that's my son. I would definitely not put me or child in a risky situation in terms of a fling.

@Goblin86

It's only been 3 weeks, it'll take time until it sinks in for him. The fact that he's not moved anywhere more 'permanent' shows that he still thinks you'll take him back.

You need to be blunt with him. You need to open a new email account and text him the address, and tell him that he can contact you via email to discuss child access visits, but that is all.

You need to make it very clear that you do not want to communicate about anything else.

He is not to come to your house without prior arrangement with you, and he never comes into your house at all. (He will always think of it as his home as long as he has access)

The time for 'chats' about your 'relationship' is OVER. The relationship is OVER.

Time for a new chapter in all of your lives.