i got married a couple of years ago to a wonderful lady , during a cinversaition it came out she had a relationship at work with a married man before we met , and he came and stayed in the house where we live and in our bed on a few occasions while we knew each other but were not properly dating. i understand this is in the past. however she keeps in touch with this man , thier messages are flirtitatious , they call eall other "gorgeous" and lovey dovey emojis , she has on occasion denied messaging only to reval later she has , and i have told her that i feel this relations ship is counterproductive to our marraige and asked her would she take a step back , she countinues to message privatly and like his posts on FB etc. ive said in the past that if the content of the messages continues to be flirtatious then i would reveal the affair to his wife , am I overreactiong this is very troubling .