Ended my relationship...

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After nearly 4 years of ups and downs and him being blatantly honest in saying he wanted more from his life (which didn't include me as I'm an agoraphobic) I did the selfless thing and let him go and do what he wants. Plus he was 'burnt out' for being with someone who su

I'm just a bit lost as to what I do now...

This isn't the first time a relationship has ended because a man couldn't cope with me/my situation

Sorry for what you going through.
Can you afford some kind of counselling to help you with this?
You may be able to have a successful relationship in the future with someone else if counselling helps you.

I don't wish to patronise but the one thing that stood out to me about your postnis that you call yourself an agoraphobic rather than someone with agoraphobia. The difference between the two is great.

Is this something you can address? It sounds cruel that he left you but I think many people would find this very limiting. We all only get one life and deserve to be happy.

Buy a book on dbt and ' the power of attachment'
Those will help you a lot. Councelling is okay. But honestly you have to figure out where your problems have come from, identify and work through it. These books will help you a lot! Theres also books like 'what happened to you' theres so many resources out there to help you.