Hot anger and cool anger

[Thinkinginsidethebox]

When you've been cheated on, have you experienced a change from hot anger to cool anger and can you tell me what it feels like, how long before it changed from hot to cool, and how cool anger manifested for you?

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Happened to me many time. Hot anger for a few hours then a cold anger and wish for revenge. I can eke out revenge over years, They do say that revenge is a dish best served cold and I agree.

One principle I live by. Take the innocent along with the guilty. If you pay back someone in such a way that it impinges upon innocent members of their family it will hurt them all the more because they will experience deep guilt in seeing their loved ones suffer.

@memberofthewedding

I think that's a horrible suggestion. How callous would you need to be to deliberately wish harm on innocents !

I'm definitely NOT averse to being 'cold angry', but personally, I've only ever desired/obtained 'revenge' by 'hurting' the guilty party.

(And I have been guilty of holding 'grudges' and ''getting revenge'' over long periods of time ! But you have to have hurt me or my DC personally and on purpose, before I'd be that 'cold angry' !)