So lost

[Gem8701]

So i was with DP for 5 years, we have a 3 yr old little girl together. I moved out of our home in March and immediatley got with someone else (big mistake) but I just cant stop thinking or wanting to be with Ex, he is a lovely guy and a great dad, we just lost the spark, we didnt spend time together or have sex for 2 years and we never really talked. In the end I just got fed up and left and now I regret it so much, i'm with someone new now and it just isnt the same, I love him but I just miss my old life and being a family with my ex. I just dont know how to go about getting over it, have tried to see if ex wants to reconcile but answer always same - no, I guess im just feeling sorry for myself but im just struggling.

You have learned the hard way that the grass is not always greener.

If your ex continues to refuse to try to reconcile, there isn't much you can do about it. He has to protect himself and I expect he was very hurt. However you presumably see him when he visits or collects your daughter.

Please do not introduce new boyfriend to your daughter yet, you've only been seeing him for five minutes.

So OP, was it your fault that you didn't talk or spend time together or have sex for 2 years? Perhaps you've got rose tinted specs about your old life? Were all the problems down to you?

I guess it was partly my fault yes but it takes two to make a relationship work.

Would you still go back if it was exactly the same as before you left? No sex and not spending time together? Or are you remembering it with rose tinted specs because it was probably easier / more comfortable than your current life?

Probably would go back as i loved him x