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Thinking back

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plasticwineglass · 22/06/2021 09:40

Today just having a shit day. Remembering when oh was going leave me couple yrs ago. Stayed together but just don't get it still. Love him but sometimes look back at how one day everything ok and next day a long relationship almost gone by his choice.
Feel sad and angry a lot of the time.
Don't think I will ever get back that feeling of total trust/safe feeling but living a relationship with him still and have to put that time to back of mind.
It's hard though as I feel resentful inside at that week where he was making plans for us to eventually separate.
Think I am depressed sometimes and know I will never trust anyone again. Something died in me that day and it makes me really sad.
How do other people move forward in same relationship and feel better.

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ThatOtherPoster · 22/06/2021 09:41

I think shag you’re feeling is completely normal and expected, in the circumstances.

ThatOtherPoster · 22/06/2021 09:42

WHAT you’re feeling!!! 😆

plasticwineglass · 22/06/2021 09:46

Ps went to dinner with lady friend and when I found out didn't want to be with me anymore. Terrible week as I thought we were happy😰
Two years on together but I feel so angry/tearful/sad sometimes.
Other days feel good.

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plasticwineglass · 22/06/2021 09:54

@ThatOtherPoster

WHAT you’re feeling!!! 😆
😂😂 That cheered me up
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ThatOtherPoster · 22/06/2021 10:07

Ps went to dinner with lady friend and when I found out didn't want to be with me anymore.

So he had a date with someone else. You found out (and I guess were justifiably upset?), and he tried to ditch you.

But he didn’t. So maybe the other woman didn’t want him?

Honestly it’s normal to feel crap after that. He blew up your lives then tried to go back to living as if nothing had happened. I bet he’s never really spoken about any of it, just wants to brush it under the carpet and for you to act as if it’s always been ok?

Other men are available.

plasticwineglass · 22/06/2021 10:12

Totally get what you are saying.
33 years together.
Hard to leave.
I don't want another man just wish this hadn't happened😰
Just gutted and person I thought I was with gone......
Feeling depressed/tearful/low self worth etc etc etc

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friedeggsandchips · 22/06/2021 21:32

Wine out and feeling really shit tonight............

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