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Should I be alarmed with this situation or am I overreacting?

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susyxo · 22/06/2021 00:24

Hi there, So my boyfriend whichhas behaved like a true man with me, always very pleasing, loving, etc, he recently purchased his first house. very modest, it's a home that will eventually use for business (rent the home).

My boyfriend months ago, almost when we started dating, started talking to a women he now calls his 'friend' and real state agent they met in a Latin restaurant,she is the one who helped him look for this house.He has talked to me about her since he started looking for a home to live in.

So this past Saturday was the housewarming party, and he invited 4 of his friends, me my grandparents (my parents live abroad) and my aunt, he also invited his 'friend' the real state agent, and her aunt, so everything was good, everybody was talking, getting to know each other.But then I start to notice that this Real state agent 'FRIEND' of his' was trying to win HIS family being all nicey nicey, then from time to time she started to follow my bf around but if my boyfriend went to the kitchen, she sometimes went after him , and then they both went to the bathroom hallway where both bedrooms are and she asked him 'so did you do so and so to the bathroom' and he answered her very naturally (well my grandma was in front of him of course!) so he replied :'oh yeah come over so you can see, and then they went inside of a bedroom and came back a 3 minutes after.

So I did notice that day that my boyfriend was anxious,uneasy or nervous and my aunt told me exactly the same thing that she noticed that he looked nervous.

Mind you all the time they went looking for homes, he took her to restaurants like a couple of times ( supposedly to open the laptop and look for houses), I don't believe this is a real state to client behavior sounds like a little more to me, plus in one message I discovered she said to him, the food as really good, we had a mellow/pleasant time!!

I truly believe that this girl likes him. I find it so weird that he was going to rent this efficiency to his realtor, what type of professional realtor is she that was going to live in the efficiency that her client was going to rent!

I talked to him about all of THIS ISSUE that I did not like her at all.That she was all over HIM for my taste or for what I had seen in the house warming party,and so so,so he was kind of bummed that I did not like her, cause he in fact was planning to rent the bedroom to HER .

He said he never had anything with this girl, he had no sex, nothing and that she never told him anything or insinuated.

By the way that everything has developed, Do you think there might had been something between my boyfriend and this girl that I don't know about, sex in between,,what is your honest opinion about all of this?Hmm

OP posts:
QueenBee52 · 22/06/2021 00:53

OP...

TRUST your instincts always 🌸

Anordinarymum · 22/06/2021 01:15

Walk away OP

Nsky · 22/06/2021 01:20

Run, just run

MsDogLady · 22/06/2021 07:14

Going out to restaurants and messaging about the good time they had? Following him around at the party and ingratiating herself with his family? Lines are being blurred and it sounds like something is simmering between them.

I would move on and leave them to it, Susy.

MondayMorningYetAgain · 22/06/2021 07:35

Just walk away. Whatever is actually happening, it's not worth the headfuck it is for you.

He's not the only man in the world.

No one knows whether they are just friends, whether she propositioned him in the bedroom and that's why he was uneasy afterwards, whether he is enjoying a flirtation on the side or what.

You, however, deserve a relationship that doesn't have this level.of angst. So end it.

seensome · 22/06/2021 07:50

He first met the friend in a restaurant, who does that unless he fancied her to begin with, this is so weird maybe she also thinks you're a friend, who knows.
Just walk away they'll always be three of you.

Zerrin13 · 22/06/2021 07:57

Cut him free

DoingItMyself · 22/06/2021 08:01

Abandon this man immediately. He's shagging the real estate agent.

forumdonkey · 22/06/2021 08:20

The main thing is, he's completely disrespecting you and your feelings. She's only an estate agent that he's done business with so shouldn't be a priority over you and your feelings. If her and her feelings come before you and yours, no matter what he says, it's time to pick up your self respect and leave.

ViewFromTheSteeple · 22/06/2021 08:48

I am going to ask if you are in the UK or the US, just from no u in behaviour and the term real estate agent/realtor . We have estate agents which are different from real estate agents in terms of the level of service they provide.

So lunches to discuss houses can be normal in the US, however the renting of his spare room to her crosses the line. It was a professional business with the house buying but the renting the room is the deal breaker for me, especially as she appears to be interested in him. Yes you may trust him but not her and she will be there in the house when you visit or stay over.

Naunet · 22/06/2021 09:32

Sorry, but I think he’s either cheating, or wants to.

susyxo · 22/06/2021 19:40

Exactly, that whole she living in the other room, even if it's private, its crazy, and she is disrespectful cause she met me and inspite of this she still was throwing herself at him.

I just get a weird vibe, not a good feeling, just very weird.

OP posts:
Clymene · 22/06/2021 19:55

She is not in a relationship with you; he is. If anyone is being disrespectful, it's him. He's treating you like a fool. Don't let him.

friedeggsandchips · 22/06/2021 20:16

Yeah I don't like the sound of this.
Move on.
Let them get on with it and meet someone totally devoted to you.
It's not worth the worry. Like you said sounds weird.

66babe · 22/06/2021 20:22

I'd say this is definitely a more personal relationship than either is letting in
Get rid and leave them to it
They can have each other ... very very disrespectful

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