My ex's best friend.
They also work together.
I only know him through my ex, who I was with for about 18 months. He's not a 'mutual' friend or anything.
He messaged me a bit after the break up, checking I was ok, but then I blocked his number as I didn't want that link there to my ex. Then he got in touch over social media and we've been chatting a bit. I don't understand why he's talking to me. If my ex knew I'm pretty sure they would no longer be friends. So it seems pretty risky on his part, to be talking to me. I don't know if he just feels sorry for me or what.
He knows a lot about my relationship with my ex. I do try not to get into any of that with him but I do find it a comfort that he knows about certain things. I find it hard to open up to people so friends don't really know a lot of stuff that has gone on with me. But because he already knows, I feel I can be more myself with him.
I feel he maybe goes beyond bring a friend sometimes. (If I could even call us friends). For example, the other night I couldn't sleep. It was about 3am. He was awake too and could see I was online so he messaged me. The next morning, when I got back from the school run, he dropped off coffee and breakfast. It's about a 20 min drive out of his way to get here. He didn't want to stay or anything. Just dropped off the breakfast and coffee, said he thought I might need it as I didn't sleep well. It was incredibly sweet of him and I was really touched, but it seems a bit much. To him it seems like no big deal... so maybe I'm just reading too much into it...?
He's not what I would describe as my 'type' at all. I'm not over my ex. But I find myself drawn to him, thinking about him a lot. Looking forward to his messages. I'm probably just flattered by his attention. Nothing is going to happen between us.
Should I tell him I don't think we should talk anymore? Or am I being dramatic and making a big deal about someone genuinely looking out for me and just being nice.
In my head I can just see this spiralling.